After teaching for nine years, I became a SAHM. The first couple of months I was overwhelmed with everything I thought I had to get done. At night I would complain to my husband that I just didn’t have time to get things done.
He simply replied, “Who says you have to do all of that?”
Then it struck me, I was putting the pressure on myself. I was making the to-do lists that weren’t getting completed. I was the one stressing my self out and feeling guilty.
My husband said, “Our son is a full time job already. Don’t push yourself.”
I was so glad he said that. Really, being a mom is MORE than a full time job. It is the job that never ends.
I had to change my mindset. Being a mom is enough. I don’t have to cross things off of my to-do list just to feel like I have accomplished something that day.
If I have changed dirty diapers, fed a hungry baby, laughed with my son, rocked him to sleep, and showed him love, I have done enough.
Right after I was brought to my room in the hospital after delivery, I had just started skin-to-skin when we had some visitors. I was going to let the visitors hold him, but a nurse very kindly said to me,
I listened to her and held on to my baby and enjoyed those first, special moments with him.
The nurse’s words still run through my mind when I feel like I need to get that to-do list done.
I will never get this time back; being Mom really is enough.