Before I had a baby I just knew that we weren’t going to give him a pacifier. I had read that babies could get confused using one and may have trouble nursing.
I knew that he shouldn’t have one…..
Fast forward about 2 days after he was born.
We gave him a pacifier!
It made all the difference in the world.
At nine months he still uses it to go to sleep, and when he is fussy, we give it to him.
A few weeks ago we were out and about, and Caleb started getting fussy. We gave him his “paci” and all was well. Expect my crazy mind!
I started worrying:
- What if he never wants to give up his paci?
- How am I going to wean him off of it?
- When should I wean him off of it?
- Is he going to be 5 years old and still using a paci?
- Am I going to be the mom that all the other moms judge because I couldn’t even take my son’s pacifier away?
I have always been a bit of a worry wart, and being a mother has seemed to multiply my worries!
Finally, I told myself, “Emily, stop worrying. He needs it now. Focus on NOW!”
(Do you ever have conversations with yourself in your head too? Ha!)
I took a deep breathe and remembered one of the best words of advise I received at one of my baby showers: Enjoy each season you are in with your child. Don’t always be looking ahead to what is next.
Tomorrow will worry about itself.
Worrying about tomorrow is a waste of time, energy, happiness, and sleep. I wish I could take back all the hours that I should have been fast asleep, but instead I wasted tossing and turning because my mind was running crazy with worry about a situation that was out of my control.
Do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day enough trouble of its own.
Last week The Nester shared, “Today, let’s enjoy where we are.” She was referring to building our homes, but it can relate to all areas of life, especially motherhood.
Instead of worrying about what the future may or may not bring, let’s find the good in the present moment, and let tomorrow take care of itself!
How about you. Do you tend to worry about the future too? Do you have to be purposeful about focusing on the present?