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How a New Recipe Taught Me a Lesson About Forgiveness

It is easy to want to hold on to our hurts, but forgiveness is a choice that will set you free from being miserable.

Have you ever found a new recipe and just knew that your family was going to love it? I did. It was a recipe for homemade chili to use on hot dogs.

However, my husband didn’t think it was such a great recipe. After eating about half of his chili dog, he turned to me and said, “This tastes like crap.” 
 
Now, you have to know my husband. He tells you exactly what he thinks. 
 
If you want to hear an honest opinion about something, he is the guy to ask. This is a great quality, and one that I wish I had more of.  However, his delivery on this particular day wasn’t very heart warming!
 
After he told me what he thought about my new recipe, I started to sulk. “What!? I just spent 45 minutes putting this  meal together, Buddy! How dare you.” 
 
After a few minutes, my husband said to me, “I’m sorry for how I said it. Please forgive me. You know you love me. (wink, wink) Just be happy.” 
 
I had a choice to make.
 
I could keep wallowing in my self-pity and be miserable, or I could accept his apology, eat another chili dog, and be happy!
 
Thankfully I chose the later. In my opinion those chili dogs were pretty tasty! 
 

“Forgiveness does not change the past, but it does enlarge the future.”

~Paul Boese~

 
I wish I could say that I have always chosen to forgive my offenders so quickly. But the truth is that because
of my selfishness and pride, I often want to sulk a little longer and let my offender know how much they hurt me. 
 
When we choose to hold on to our hurt, the only thing we are doing is robbing ourselves of joy and a better relationship with the other person. The older I get the more I realize how important choosing forgiveness is.
 
The next time someone asks for your forgiveness, give it quickly, eat another chili dog, and be happy! 🙂

 

Ephesians 4:31-32  

Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and
slander be put away from you, along with all malice. Be kind to one another,
tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.

 

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10 Comments


  1. //

    Thank you for this great illustration and reminder! Forgiveness and handling conflict are not things I'm very good at. 🙂 Yesterday our pastor preached about how to respond to conflict, and that we should always offer a mended relationship – because that's what Jesus did for us. It's hard to do, but the results are always worth it!

    http://comehomeforcomfort.com


    1. //

      I'm not that great at handling conflict either. It is hard to mend relationships when you have been hurt, but I am learning the art of speaking the truth in love.


  2. //

    This is a lovely reminder.

    Unforgiveness can eat us up and as Christians, we especially shouldn't be living with bitterness in our hearts.

    Thanks so much for sharing these thought-provoking insights. Pinning on my Deliberate FAITH board.

    Wishing you a blessed week.
    xoxo


    1. //

      Thank you for pinning, Jennifer! Bitterness is a lonely place to be for sure. I hope you have a blessed week too!


  3. //

    Great word, Emily!

    It does seem like we can brush things off and forgive quickly or stay mad and be miserable.

    Love the story of the chili dog! And, I think you are in for a nice, long marriage to your man!

    Came over on Tuesday Talk to find your site.

    Hope you have a blessed day~
    Melanie


    1. //

      Melanie, thank you for visiting from Tuesday Talk. It is no fun staying mad and miserable. Now, when I think of chili dogs, I'll remember to forgive quickly! 🙂


  4. //

    I struggle with forgiveness far too often as well. It can be difficult. You are so right though: it truly robs us of our joy. I love the quote from Paul Boese you shared. What incredible truth lies in that simple statement! I also completely agree that "selfishness and pride" are big reasons of why we hang on to our anger. That was really eye-opening for me. Many blessings to you and your forgiven hubby :).


    1. //

      Thanks, Candace! That quote really does put things in perspective. Forgiveness is a choice that I have to really work at; it doesn't always come easily.


  5. //

    What a lovely reminder! Forgiveness, especially in marriage, is so important. My hubby is a say it like it is guy too, and that can be so hard sometimes. I'm glad you had such a great takeaway from this.


    1. //

      Hey Tiffany, yes, I have learned not to be quite so sensitive with my husband. It has taken me time to learn that he isn't trying to hurt my feelings, but rather he is just being brutally honest with me. 🙂

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