While I was doing the dishes the other night, my one year old came into the kitchen wanting my attention. I stopped
and played with him for a few minutes. But then I returned to my dishes. A few minutes later he stood next to me, tugged at my pant leg, looked up at me, and said, “Momma, Momma”.
And it’s not just my one year old who needs my time either, it’s the big man in my life too! My husband will say things like, “Come sit with me, Finish that tomorrow, Let’s get out of the house, or Can I talk to you?”
Sometimes I can be so much like Martha…
“As Jesus and his disciples were on their way, he came to a village where a woman named Martha opened her home to him. She had a sister called Mary, who sat at the Lord’s feet listening to what he said. But Martha was distracted by all the preparations that had to be made. She came to him and asked, ‘Lord, don’t you care that my sister has left me to do the work by myself? Tell her to help me!’
‘Martha, Martha,’ the Lord answered, ‘you are worried and upset about many things, but few things are needed—or indeed only one. Mary has chosen what is better, and it will not be taken away from her.’”
Being present really doesn’t require much. It just means making choices. For this season in my life being present looks like this.
- Putting the phone or tablet down while playing with my son,
talking to my husband, and while I’m out to eat, or at events with others.
- I set aside a time to simply talk to my husband a couple of times each
day. When he gets home form work, I stop what I am doing, sit on the couch, and we talk.
- Read and sing to my son throughout the day.
- Tickle and giggle with him.
- Sit on the floor and play next to my son. Play and talk to him while his is in the pool.
- Make a list of things that are swirling in my head, so
that I can focus on my family instead of all my thoughts and to-do lists.
How do you choose to be present with your loved ones?