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How to Be Present with Your Family

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While I was doing the dishes the other night, my one year old came into the kitchen wanting my attention. I stopped and played with him for a few minutes.

But then I returned to my dishes.

A few minutes later he stood next to me, tugged at my pant leg, looked up at me, and said, “Momma, Momma”.

Oh, My Heart!
He had never tugged on my pant leg before!
This time I decided the dishes could wait. I got on the floor with him and played with the blocks and giggled.
I know that he won’t always tug at my pant leg in the literal sense, but as he gets older he will ask for my time and attention in other ways.And it’s not just my one year old who needs my time either, it’s the big man in my life too! My husband will say things like, “Come sit with me, Finish that tomorrow, Let’s get out of the house, or Can I talk to you?”

As a wife and mother it can be SO easy to focus on taking care of all the physical needs of our families.
Clean laundry, well-prepared meals, and a clean house.
But what their souls need is our time. Yes, my guys need clean clothes and food to eat, but in all my doing for them, I can’t forget about simply being with them.

Sometimes I can be so much like Martha…

~Luke 10:38-42~

“As Jesus and his disciples were on their way, he came to a village where a woman named Martha opened her home to him. She had a sister called Mary, who sat at the Lord’s feet listening to what he said.

But Martha was distracted by all the preparations that had to be made. She came to him and asked, ‘Lord, don’t you care that my sister has left me to do the work by myself? Tell her to help me!’

‘Martha, Martha,’ the Lord answered, ‘you are worried and upset about many things, but few things are needed—or indeed only one. Mary has chosen what is better, and it will not be taken away from her.’”

When was the last time you were completely present with your spouse or children? Did they have your complete attention?

Being present really doesn’t require much.  It just means making choices. For this season in my life being present looks like this.

  • Putting the phone or tablet down while playing with my son,
    talking to my husband, and while I’m out to eat, or at events with others.
  • I set aside a time to simply talk to my husband a couple of times each
    day. When he gets home form work, I stop what I am doing, sit on the couch, and we talk.
  • Read and sing to my son throughout the day.
  • Tickle and giggle with him.
  • Sit on the floor and play next to my son. Play and talk to him while his is in the pool.
  • Make a list of things that are swirling in my head, so
    that I can focus on my family instead of all my thoughts and to-do lists.

How do you choose to be present with your loved ones?

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6 thoughts on “How to Be Present with Your Family

  1. Is there supposed to be that full link right there? Just wanted to check.

    You are so right on how easy it is to be present for your loved ones. Sophie always does the tugging on my clothes, so I often hold her while doing things like cooking or cleaning dishes. Most of the time we just spend the evening sitting around enjoying the time we get together since we get such little amounts of it.

    liz jo @ sundays with sophie

    1. Liz, thank you for pointing that link out! I had no idea it was there.

      It amazes me how much our little ones love to be with us even while doing chores. They just love their mommas! Since becoming a mom, I have learned that I can do many things one-handed 🙂

  2. Oh. My. Goodness. I have so much to say. Will try to edit. 1. I love your blog. 2. Thank you for your kind comments on mine today. I want to make sure you see my response, so here it is: "Girl, YOU made my day! Thank you so much for your very encouraging feedback. I don't want to come across as a know-it-all or mean-spirited. I just want to give a little shout-out to my fellow introverts! So glad to know we have this in common, Queen Emily." 3. I JUST put up a post about worrying today on my other blog and used that exact Mary/Martha Scripture you cited here! So glad I'm not the only sometimes-Martha-mom around! Blessings to you! P.S. Have I mentioned I love your blog? 😉

    1. Thank you, Elizabeth. You are too kind! I love your blog too and feel like I can relate to you every time I visit. I will check out your Mary/Martha post. Great minds think alike! 🙂

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