Christmas should be the most wonderful time of the year, but sometimes it can be the most stressful time of the year because there is so much to do, bake, buy, and places to attend!
Keeping organized lists of all these things will help you remember it all, but I also believe you need to make a NOT DOING list.
I have always been the queen of lists, but in 2013 when I was just getting over morning sickness, I decided to make my first ever NOT DOING list for Christmas that year.
At the time I knew I couldn’t do it all, so I gave myself permission to not do it all.
It was the BEST Christmas I ever had!
Instead of running around doing so much, I was able to slow down, focus on a few of the most important things and completely enjoy the season.
So, are you sold?! Ready to make your own not doing list for this Christmas?
In this post, I’ll share what you need to know. Plus I created a free printable to help you put what you read into action!
Ask some questions before making your list.
What was stressful last Christmas (or Halloween or Thanksgiving…)?
What are you not looking forward to this Christmas?
What is a priority this year?
What words do you want to describe your family’s Christmas this year?
What to include on your NOT DOING List:
- is not necessary and doesn’t bring you joy
- you are doing simply out of guilt
- you are doing to please others but you don’t really enjoy
- costs you more than you have budgeted for the season
- causes you unnecessary stress
My Not Doing Christmas List:
I’m not making a lot of Christmas candy and goodies, just a few favorites.
I’m not going Black Friday shopping.
I’m not writing a Christmas letter.
I’m not decorating the entire house.
I’m not comparing myself to others.
A word of caution:
If you are involved in a family tradition or something that involves other people, be sure to take all of that into perspective and talk to the people involved before simply declaring that you aren’t doing it this year.
It may be that someone else can step into your usual role.
It may be that you still are part of the event, but you take on less responsibility.
Or maybe the others involved don’t want to do it either, and you are finally the person who had the courage to say something!
Now here’s the hard part…
Some of the things you take off of your list will cause some people to be upset. They may pressure you to do it anyway.
Understandably, it may be hard for some people to support your decisions not to do some things.
I encourage you to talk to them about WHY you are choosing to not attend an activity or bake less cookies or not participate in a gift exchange.
Have an honest and kind conversation. Let them know that you can’t do it all, and this is an area you have chosen to cut back in this year.
Do the best you can with what you have, and enjoy the season spent with family and friends!