When I tell others that I am a stay-at-home-mom, I often hear working moms say that I am “lucky to be able to stay home.” I always respond with a smile, and tell them that I am so thankful to stay home, but what I really want to say is, “Honey, luck ain’t got nothin’ to do with it!”
I understand that some women are the sole providers for their families, and they have no choice but to work. However, the majority of the women who have told me that I am “lucky” have husbands who have full time, reliable jobs, many of which make more money than my husband does.
You see, my husband works very hard to support our family, but we are not “rolling in money”. I greatly respect my husband, so I don’t want anyone to take this the wrong way. I simply want to be open with you and encourage others who may be in the same situation.
My husband started working full time at the age of 17 instead of going to college. Even though he doesn’t have a college education, he is still able to support his family! He currently works at a warehouse for a big, employee-owned supermarket chain where he earns stock in the company.
Our little family of 3 lives off of my husband’s income alone. I haven’t made a cent from this blog (yet), and neither my husband nor myself have any side hustles.
Last year I had a temporary tutoring job for about 3 months, but that is the only time in the past year and a half that I earned any income. So when I say we live on one income, we truly live on one income.
We have never asked for money, been late on a bill, or gone hungry. In fact, in the last year we were able to pay off a vehicle and pay cash for TWO expensive medical emergencies on one income. I know several families who have also chosen for the wife to stay home and take care of the kids even though the husband doesn’t have a high paying job.
Every single one of these women have shared with me that the Lord ALWAYS provides.
Don’t get me wrong, making the decision for me to stay home scared me, and in the bottom of my heart there was a fear that we weren’t going to make it. But if I had never quit my job, we wouldn’t have been able to see God provide for us time and time again in both big and small ways.
Shortly after I quit my job, God reassured me in such a simple way that He would take care of us. I was at the grocery store where I planned to buy only necessary items. Everything on my list was on sale except for tomato sauce and bobby pins. When I got to the store, I found out that the unadvertised sale that week was on tomato sauce. Then there just happened to be a package of the high quality bobby pins on clearance!
I couldn’t believe that the two things I needed, God had on sale for me. I felt like God said, “See, I’m going to take care of you. Just trust me.” Since that day I have seen God provide for us over and over. I could share story after story of God’s provision.
Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they?
So, dear reader, are you wondering whether or not you can afford to stay home with your children? If you are, may I encourage you to take God at His Word, and trust that he will take care of you (Matthew 6:31-32).
That is the reason that I am able to stay home instead of working; God always provides for all our needs!
If it is your heart’s desire to stay home with your children, but there is not another income to provide for your family other than yours, Don’t ever give up hoping, praying, and working for that goal.
Please know that this post is coming from a heart to encourage not to condemn those who have to work. I know that I am blessed to have a husband who is able to work and support me staying home and that not everyone is given this opportunity.
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