As women we have so many roles that we fill. It can be overwhelming and exhausting at times. We manage the home, take care of our families’ needs, have responsibilities at work and church.
You may even pay the bills, schedule appointments, take care of extended family members, chauffeur your family from place to place, run the errands, make all the meals and more!
Sometimes we fill our lives with so many things that our lives start to become unbalanced, and certain activities take up too much of our time while other areas are neglected.
Think for a moment. What is one area of your life that is being neglected?
Is it your health? Your family? Your home?
I don’t ask you this to make you feel guilty but rather to have you take an honest look at your life right now.
If I ever feel like an area of my life is being neglected, I know that my life is unbalanced and I need to make changes. Here’s how I do that.
1. Know Your Top 5
Last year I read the book Say Good-bye to Survival Mode* by Crystal Paine, and that is where I first heard the idea to pick your top 5 priorities.
When you know what your top 5 priorities are in life, you know what you need to be spending your time on to have a balanced life. These priorities may change throughout the different seasons of your life.
Five years ago, a balanced life looked different than my life does today because my top 5 priorities are not all the same as they used to be.
My top 5:
- My relationship with God
- My relationship with my husband and my son
- My emotional and physical health
- My home
- My blog
When I make a decision, I think about whether or not my decision is going to take time away from my top 5 priorities.
Recently, I was offered a teaching job where my son would be able to go to daycare for free. Having more income would be nice, but my husband and I knew that if I returned to work, our family time would be limited and I would have a hard time managing the home.
I also knew that if I went back to work, I probably wouldn’t spend the time I needed in God’s Word or taking care of my health. Knowing my top 5 priorities, made the decision easy to make: no, I wasn’t suppose to go back to work.
We all want to live full lives, but that doesn’t mean that our lives need to be overflowing. I relate my life to eating a meal. I want to eat enough food that I am full and satisfied. However, I do not want to fill my body with so many wonderfully tasting foods that I am stuffed and uncomfortable.
Fill your life with what make you satisfied but not uncomfortably stuffed!
2. Evaluate on a Regular Basis
It is so easy to go through life on autopilot, isn’t it?
We follow the same routines and habits sometimes without even thinking about the consequences. Living life on autopilot can cause our lives to get out of balance without even knowing it.
Many times people only reevaluate their lives around New Year’s. They make big goals but don’t follow through because they don’t check in on their progress on a regular basis throughout the year.
Decide on a specific time that you can take a good look at your life, maybe once a week or once a month.
Ask yourself if your top priorities are getting the attention they deserve. If not, make the changes that you need.
A Personal Note to You from Me
Lately, I have been finishing my blog posts a few hours before publishing them, and this has caused me to feel out of control and unbalanced. In the past several months, I’ve been working hard to make my posts the best that they can be by providing more content, better pictures, and proper grammar.
But all of that takes extra time, and the last two months I have felt overwhelmed with all of the work that needs to get done.
So I’m taking some of my own advice, and working on balance in my life by changing up the amount of times I post each week.
Instead of twice a week, I will be posting once a week on Monday mornings. I plan to do this the rest of May and June. At the beginning of July, I will reevaluate and make changes if need be.
I appreciate all of you who choose to come back here week after week and be a part of this community. You mean so much to me!
You, my readers, are a big part of why I am choosing to cut back. I want to give you the very best that I can give. For now, that means once a week. I appreciate your support!
So tell me, how do you find balance in your life?
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