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How to Stay Sane as a Stay-At-Home-Mom

If you ever feel discouraged as a stay at home mom, check out these 6 ways to keep your sanity! #1 is something most moms forget to do.

Do you ever feel like you are going IN SANE as a stay at home mom?!

You are not alone!

Running a household while meeting the constant needs of a little one can be down-right tiring and even discouraging at times as a mom.

Before staying home two years ago, I worked full time as a teacher, and adjusting to a stay at home mom was much harder mentally and emotionally than I had ever imagined. After some time I have gone from simply surviving to now thriving! You can read more about that here.

We are all different and the way we choose to mother is unique, but there are some general habits that can help all of us stay at home moms!
 

1. Take Care of Yourself

This is first on the list because so many moms put this last on the list. Often we meet the needs of our families and don’t do a great job of taking care of ourselves.

However, I know that I am a better mom, wife, and person in general if I choose to take care of myself. Here are a few simple things that you can do.

  • Get enough sleep. I know this is easier said than done, but do what it takes to get to bed earlier so that you can sleep.
  • Get dressed. The clothes you wear help set the tone of your day. If I put a little effort into my looks by wearing a pair of jeans and a nice top, brushing my hair, and putting on a little make-up, I feel confident and ready to tackle the day much better than if I just stay in my workout clothes.
  • Fuel your body. When you eat food that fuels your body, you are better equipped for all your mom responsibilities. I love frozen fruits and vegetables because they are already washed, peeled, and cut which makes them super convenient!

If it is hard to find the time to take care of yourself, check out the book Say Good-bye to Survival Mode*. This book helped me get my time and priorities in order so that I am able to take care of myself too!

2. Follow Simple Routines

If you are a stay at home mom, there is no one telling you what to do. This is both a blessing and a curse! The blessing is that YOU are your own boss. However, the down side is that without direction, it is easy to fall into a habit of not using your time wisely.

The first few months at home, I really struggled with getting things done and spending time with my son. One day it finally occurred to me that I needed routines and schedules just like I had when I was teaching. That is when I came up with my morning routine, evening routine, and weekly schedule.

If you are new to starting routines, I think a morning routine is a great place to start. You can take this course, Make Over Your Mornings* for step-by-step help in creating a routine that works for you.

3. Get Out of the House

If you are not careful, you may find yourself at home going stir crazy. I used to stay home in an effort to save money. However, I now make a habit of getting out of the house almost every single day without spending money. Sometimes we simply walk around the neighborhood. But many days we will drive somewhere. We go to the park, to the children’s program at the library, we run errands, and some days we go window shopping.

How to stay sane as a stay-at-home-mom. Simple tips!

 

4. Take Breaks

It is hard to take a break while you have little ones who need your constant attention, but it can and should be done. If you feel like you are running out of energy or patience, give yourself a little break! Here are a few ways to sneak breaks in during the day even at home.

  • Get up 10 minutes before your children if possible. If your baby isn’t sleeping during the night, I wouldn’t push this one. You need your sleep! But if you can, having just a few minutes to yourself before your little ones wake is a great way to energize yourself before the day starts.
  • Have a regular morning snack time. While your child is eating, take a little break yourself!
  • Put your feet up while your little one takes a nap or even take a nap yourself. If you have older children who do not nap, you can still have an hour of quiet play in the afternoons.
  • Rotate toys. Set aside a few toys and only bring them out every once in awhile. Your child will stay occupied with the “new” toy for a while and in turn give you a break.
  • Go outside. If you are able, let your kids go outside and run off some energy. Sometimes my son likes me to play with him outside, but often he is just fine having me sit in an outdoor chair watching him play.

 

5. Find a Hobby

Being a mom can be an all consuming responsibility. And it is easy to become so wrapped up in our children and their needs that we forget to do things we enjoy. Before becoming a mom, you probably had a few hobbies that you enjoyed. Are you still doing them? If not, start making the time to do at least one of them or find a new hobby.

 

6. Laugh

If you feel like you are about to lose it, sometimes the best thing you can do is just laugh! When I feel like I am on my last nerve, I’ll do something to lighten the mood. We may have a little tickle session, make funny faces at each other, or chase each other around the house. Sometimes the best medicine for stress truly is laughing!

Embracing your role as a stay at home mom takes time. If you are like me, there will be days when you feel like you may be going in sane! But I hope that some of these tips will help return sanity to your life.

What is one of the hardest parts about being a stay at home mom? Do you have any other encouragement that you could share for moms? Feel free to let us know in the comments!

 

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17 Comments


  1. // Reply

    I love everything on this list. Well, except #3 to a certain extent. I find that if I go places more than 2-3 times a week I actually get more burned out. But I do need those days. I had surgery last year and was on the sofa for 17 days. That’s a long time to not leave the house.


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      Totally understand! 17 days is a long time! I’m sure you were ready to go anywhere after your recovery. Sometimes going out is more hassle than it is worth. When my son was a baby it was difficult to get out the door, and then juggling diaper changes and feeding was a big chore for this first time mom. Some days I came back home exhausted! Just going outside and getting fresh air is a great way to get out of the house too.


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      Rotating the toys has really helped. It is great that you are able to spend time with your granddaughter!


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    Get Out of the House is a great tip. I am glad that you added it here! It’s a great reminder for myself.

    Sometimes it just sounds like too much work…but we are always so happy once we are out of the house! My girls love it and so do I. 🙂


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      I know what you mean. When my son was a baby, it seemed like so much work to get out of the house, but it helps me not go stir-crazy! And like you said, the kids enjoy it too!


  3. // Reply

    I love all these tips. All of them are things that I already knew I need to be doing but sometimes a gentle reminder especially to take care of myself first is needed. And I love the tip about finding a hobby. I have a few things I do just for me and sometimes I feel guilty about it but I’m trying not to.


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      I’m so glad this was an encouragement to you! I hope that you are able to enjoy your hobbies without feeling guilty. My hobbies have changed a little since becoming a mom, but I still make the time to do them.


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    When I first became a SAHM I was surprised at how isolated I felt. These tips would have helped me so much back then. I think you are spot on.
    Around here, getting dressed in the morning and getting out of the house are especially helpful!


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      I wish I had heard these things when I first became a SAHM too. It can be difficult transitioning from working outside the home to being home with a newborn 24/7.


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    I am a SAHM of 2 girls ages 3 and 1, and totally agree with this list. We’ve also loved doing MOPS and Early Childhood classes. Having a few days of scheduled things makes our “free” days a nice change of pace. My 3-year-old has never been one for routines but the past 4-5 months, I’ve had a desire to use my time more wisely. Just by not multitasking so much (like you said in a different post, get off the phone and down on the floor!), I feel more fulfilled at the end of the day than I do if I focus on my to-do list. That said, I think I’d like to implement a loose schedule so I’m going to check out the resources you linked to above! So glad I found your blog!


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      I hope those resource will be a benefit to you. This whole mom thing is a learning process for us all! Having scheduled classes a few days during the week is so great for the kids and the mommas. I love getting out of the house at least for a little while and interacting with other people. 🙂


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    I nodded in agreement through your entire post. I love the comment about getting enough sleep, getting dressed and getting out and about. It’s always a challenge for me to get enough sleep and I know I could do a much better job with that. I try to plan a few play dates, errands and appointments each week to give us some opportunities to interact with others and make friends. Thanks for all of your reminders. I’m also working on eating real meals instead of just snacking.


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    Great tips! I found that establishing a routine really helped me feel better about my days at home. I crave the structure! Getting outside is important, too, especially if you have a high-energy kid (which I do!).


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      Oh, me too! I have to have structure to my days or I go in sane. Going outside is such a great way for kids to let out all of that energy. 🙂


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    I like these posts too. I used to wear my ‘nice clothes ‘ that make me feel good for when I was out and about only but now I wear them and make-up everyday and it makes such a difference to how I feel. I find getting a balance of chores and attention to my little ones hard to find.; I either feel guilty for not doing housework or guilty for not having enough playtime!


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      Yes, makeup and nice clothes don’t have to only be worn outside the house! I hear you. It can be hard finding that balance. Sometimes I just stop what I’m doing and deliberately take time to play with my son. Otherwise it is easy to get sidetracked with other things that need done around the house.

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