Do you ever feel like you are going IN SANE as a stay at home mom?!
You are not alone!
Running a household while meeting the constant needs of a little one can be down-right tiring and even discouraging at times as a mom.
Before staying home two years ago, I worked full time as a teacher, and adjusting to a stay at home mom was much harder mentally and emotionally than I had ever imagined. After some time I have gone from simply surviving to now thriving! You can read more about that here.
We are all different and the way we choose to mother is unique, but there are some general habits that can help all of us stay at home moms!
1. Take Care of Yourself
This is first on the list because so many moms put this last on the list. Often we meet the needs of our families and don’t do a great job of taking care of ourselves.
However, I know that I am a better mom, wife, and person in general if I choose to take care of myself. Here are a few simple things that you can do.
- Get enough sleep. I know this is easier said than done, but do what it takes to get to bed earlier so that you can sleep.
- Get dressed. The clothes you wear help set the tone of your day. If I put a little effort into my looks by wearing a pair of jeans and a nice top, brushing my hair, and putting on a little make-up, I feel confident and ready to tackle the day much better than if I just stay in my workout clothes.
- Fuel your body. When you eat food that fuels your body, you are better equipped for all your mom responsibilities. I love frozen fruits and vegetables because they are already washed, peeled, and cut which makes them super convenient!
If it is hard to find the time to take care of yourself, check out the book Say Good-bye to Survival Mode*. This book helped me get my time and priorities in order so that I am able to take care of myself too!
2. Follow Simple Routines
If you are a stay at home mom, there is no one telling you what to do. This is both a blessing and a curse! The blessing is that YOU are your own boss. However, the down side is that without direction, it is easy to fall into a habit of not using your time wisely.
The first few months at home, I really struggled with getting things done and spending time with my son. One day it finally occurred to me that I needed routines and schedules just like I had when I was teaching. That is when I came up with my morning routine, evening routine, and weekly schedule.
If you are new to starting routines, I think a morning routine is a great place to start. You can take this course, Make Over Your Mornings* for step-by-step help in creating a routine that works for you.
3. Get Out of the House
If you are not careful, you may find yourself at home going stir crazy. I used to stay home in an effort to save money. However, I now make a habit of getting out of the house almost every single day without spending money. Sometimes we simply walk around the neighborhood. But many days we will drive somewhere. We go to the park, to the children’s program at the library, we run errands, and some days we go window shopping.
4. Take Breaks
It is hard to take a break while you have little ones who need your constant attention, but it can and should be done. If you feel like you are running out of energy or patience, give yourself a little break! Here are a few ways to sneak breaks in during the day even at home.
- Get up 10 minutes before your children if possible. If your baby isn’t sleeping during the night, I wouldn’t push this one. You need your sleep! But if you can, having just a few minutes to yourself before your little ones wake is a great way to energize yourself before the day starts.
- Have a regular morning snack time. While your child is eating, take a little break yourself!
- Put your feet up while your little one takes a nap or even take a nap yourself. If you have older children who do not nap, you can still have an hour of quiet play in the afternoons.
- Rotate toys. Set aside a few toys and only bring them out every once in awhile. Your child will stay occupied with the “new” toy for a while and in turn give you a break.
- Go outside. If you are able, let your kids go outside and run off some energy. Sometimes my son likes me to play with him outside, but often he is just fine having me sit in an outdoor chair watching him play.
5. Find a Hobby
Being a mom can be an all consuming responsibility. And it is easy to become so wrapped up in our children and their needs that we forget to do things we enjoy. Before becoming a mom, you probably had a few hobbies that you enjoyed. Are you still doing them? If not, start making the time to do at least one of them or find a new hobby.
If you feel like you are about to lose it, sometimes the best thing you can do is just laugh! When I feel like I am on my last nerve, I’ll do something to lighten the mood. We may have a little tickle session, make funny faces at each other, or chase each other around the house. Sometimes the best medicine for stress truly is laughing!
Embracing your role as a stay at home mom takes time. If you are like me, there will be days when you feel like you may be going in sane! But I hope that some of these tips will help return sanity to your life.
What is one of the hardest parts about being a stay at home mom? Do you have any other encouragement that you could share for moms? Feel free to let us know in the comments!
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