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Is Perfection Paralyzing You?

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When my husband and I were first married, we lived in a mobile home. I thought of it as temporary because we planned to only live there for a few years and then buy a “real” home.

But we got married in 2008, the year of the economic downturn, and my husband and I were greatly affected by it. That meant we were stuck in our mobile home for much longer. My hope for moving seemed impossible, and I was often discouraged.

Then a few years after I got married, I came across this lady who called herself The Nester. Her words opened my heart to our single wide home.

She said home is wherever you are, and “It doesn’t have to be perfect to be beautiful.”

Is perfection paralyzing you?

She challenged me to be content right where I was by making my current home beautiful instead of waiting for my one day house.

So I painted walls and cabinets, put nail holes in the walls, and rearranged furniture.

And you know what?

I started to like my mobile home. I learned to make the best of it and find contentment where I was.

Waiting for the perfect home was paralyzing me from doing things I wanted to do. Things I needed to do.

Now that we live in our current home, it is nowhere close to perfect, and I’ve come to a place where I am okay with all of the imperfections.

Perfect Homemaking, toys on couch If you were to come to my home for a visit, you would not see perfection. However, you would…

  • See finger prints on the window that are probably still there from 2 weeks ago (or longer).
  • Get a cupcake served on a chipped plate because my 2 year old loves “helping” me with the dishes.
  • Chances are you will sit on a toy car. I am a boy mom after all.
  • There will probably be finger prints on the refrigerator and crumbs on the floor leftover from lunch.

I wouldn’t apologize for any of it. Unless you sat on a car and got hurt. Then I would apologize. 😉

Because all of those things represent a home my family loves and feels comfortable in.

Wouldn’t it be a shame if I never let my son help me with the dishes just so they stayed in perfect condition? Or never let him look out the back window so that fingerprints wouldn’t get on the glass?

Perfect Homemaking Chipped Plate

I share a lot about managing the home, but I hope you NEVER think I want you to aspire to perfection.

When you read my articles or any other article about homemaking, do you find yourself thinking that it would be nice to do those things, but you don’t because you are afraid that you won’t do it perfectly?

Is perfection paralyzing you?

Instead of putting off starting a morning routine because you’re afraid you won’t get it right, take the first step. Make progress and forget about doing it perfectly.

Because the truth is my morning routine isn’t perfect. It gets interrupted and moved around and sometimes neglected. But that doesn’t stop me from getting up each morning and accomplishing what I can.

This month I’ve been rereading The Nester’s (Myquillin Smith) book, The Nesting Place*.

I read it shortly after we moved into our current home 2 years ago and I loved it. But I wanted to get a refresh on the book, and it has been so good for my heart and home.

She reminded me that I am creating a home for my family and NO ONE ELSE. I’m free to make the best decisions for my home and I don’t have to worry about anyone else’s opinion.

The same is true for you.

Perfect Homemaking, Art Display

Don’t worry about what some one else’s morning routine looks like.

Don’t compare your decorating style to your friends.

Find what works for you, and do your best.

I am a work in progress, and my guess is you are too! So let’s work together and put perfection in it’s place by not letting it control our homes and lives.

  • Instead of waiting for the perfect thing to say, start a conversation with someone.
  • Instead of wishing you were a better cook, serve the best meal you can to your family.
  • Instead of having the perfect art display, use what you have and put up your children’s art.

Don’t let perfection get in the way of creating the home and life you love!

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6 thoughts on “Is Perfection Paralyzing You?

  1. Wow! I am the person you are describing. Wanting it to be perfect or not doing anything at all is who I am. This is completely freeing!

    1. Jenny, I’m so glad to hear this was freeing for you! Yes, I think we all tend to want things to be perfect, but we live in an imperfect world. Something I have to remind myself too!

  2. thank you. The need for perfection runs my life. This article has inspired me to reassess current practices and spend more quality time doing the things I love. Thank you, Emily!

    1. You are so welcome! I’m glad this was an encouragement to you. I think a lot of us let perfection run our lives, but it is so freeing to let go of the need for perfection!

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