Do you ever feel like there is not enough time in the day? Maybe the to-do list never gets done.
We all feel like this from time to time. Different seasons of our lives bring added responsibilities and new opportunities.
But I don’t think that it is healthy to stay in a state of overwhelm where we never feel like there is enough time.
In the past few years, I’ve been convicted that God has given you the right amount of time to accomplish what He has called you to do.
In my own life I have found that feeling like there is not enough time in the day is a result of being too busy.
Don’t fill your day with unimportant things.
You are not super woman. No one is!
Don’t fall into the trap of thinking that you have to “do all the things”. You will accomplish more and perform better if you focus on doing a few things really well instead of many things.
If you have never written down your top priorities, I encourage you to do that.
Then categorize them into the following groups:
- must do
- should do
- could do
The things on your must do list are necessities. Things like feeding your family. Doing the laundry so your family has clean clothes to wear. Going to work. Taking your kids to school.
The should do list are things like cleaning the bathroom, organizing the closet.
Make sure you give the most important tasks first priority and get them done right away. Then you’ll find that you have extra time to do the things on your should do and could do lists.
It will feel like you have more time in your day because you’ll get those important things done and end up with free time to do the things you really want to do.
If you want to read more about setting priorities, read How I Keep My Life Balanced.
Stop trying to be perfect.
I learned the value in “good enough” after becoming a mom. My house is not perfect, but I do manage to keep it tidy.
My blog is not winning any awards for sure, but I try to consistently share valuable information with the resources I have. Give things your best effort, but don’t demand perfection when it is not needed.
Related reading: Is Perfection Paralyzing You?
Stop filling your day with things to please others.
Sometimes we over load our schedules out of guilt because we have a hard time saying “no”.
In the book Boundaries: When to Say Yes. How to Say. No to Take Control of Your Life* . He referenced the verse Matthew 5:37 “But let your ‘Yes’ be ‘Yes,’ and your ‘No,’ ‘No.’ For whatever is more than these is from the evil one.”
How many times have you told someone yes, but in your heart, you wanted to say no? If you are doing something just to make someone else happy, than you ought to say no.
This used to be really hard for me to do. But the more that I say no, the easier it gets. And it has allowed me to say yes to things that I truly want to do!
Start saying no more often.
If you have been a people pleaser for a long time, saying no to others may seem scary and hard to do. You don’t want to disappoint others.
But from one recovering people pleaser to another, let me tell you, it gets easier the more you do it!
You just have to start getting the courage to do it. So here are some tips for saying no.
- Let the person know that you need to speak to your spouse first. Your spouse may be the one who will tell them no.
- Tell the person that you need a few days, and you will get back to them. This gives you time to really think about what your answer should be and help you build confidence to say no if you need to.
- Send them a text or email. It is easier than answering over the phone or face to face, and you won’t feel like you have to defend your decision.
- Thank them for asking, but politely tell them now is not a good time.
- Refer them to someone else that you know would be able to meet their need.
Do a time audit.
One way to discover how you are using your time is by doing a time audit. In the book Say Goodbye to Survival Mode* author Crystal Paine suggests stopping every 30 minutes and write down what you are doing for an entire day.
Wow! That activity is an eye opener!
Tracking everything you do for a day will help you discover just how much time you are spending on things that you don’t need to be doing.
When I tracked my time, I discovered just how much time I was spending on housework, social media, and watching TV instead of playing with my son.
I was able to see that I was wasting my time on a lot of unimportant tasks. If you would like to track your time, print off my Time Tracker, set an alarm on your phone to go off every 30 minutes, and record what you are doing.
Make a to-do list and tackle one thing at a time.
One of the best ways to get things done is to simply focus on one task at a time and completing it instead of starting 5 different projects and never completing them.
Since reading Eat That Frog* I have implemented the following strategy. I make a list of all the tasks that I need to accomplish. Next, I number the most important tasks 1, 2, and 3.
Then I complete those tasks in order. If there is still time, I find the next most important tasks on my list and label them 4, 5, and 6. I complete those tasks in order. Again not moving from one task until it is complete.
You’ll know what tasks to do first based on your must do, should do, and could do priority lists.
Here’s what that looks like at home.
Get reoccurring tasks done with routines.
When you follow routines, you train your body and mind to complete specific tasks each day. These habits give you focus and help you accomplish more in less time.
If you have read my blog for a while, you know I LOVE routines! They have literally changed my life, allowed me free time, and helped me embrace my role as a homemaker.
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