Do you struggle figuring out how to embrace homemaking?
Homemaking and I haven’t always gotten along. It has taken me years to embrace homemaking. When I was first married and working, I viewed my household responsibilities as burdens, and I complained. A lot.
So when I became a stay at home mom and homemaking was my full time role, I had a difficult time adjusting.
Very quickly I found myself despising my new role. I would wake up and think, “Another day of changing diapers, feeding a baby, cleaning the house, and paying the bills. Wasn’t I made to do more than this?!”
After feeling this way for months, I decided things had to change.
It took time and a change in perspective, but I’ve grown to love what I do and take great pride in my work as a homemaker.
In fact, this blog has grown because of that. Since being a homemaker didn’t come naturally for me, I figured other women may need encouragement too.
Here are some things that helped me:
1. Find out what God’s Word says about homemaking.
The first thing I did was ask God to help me. Sometimes I forget to take my struggles to the Lord, but at this time, I knew that was where I needed to start.
He led me to Titus 2:3-5, and all of a sudden that passage seemed more applicable to me than ever before.
Titus 2:3-5 “Likewise, teach the older women to be reverent in the way they live, not to be slanderers or addicted to much wine, but to teach what is good. 4 Then they can urge the younger women to love their husbands and children, 5 to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God.”
I also read lots of scripture about being content (Philippians 4:10-13) and working hard (Colossians 3:23-24).
If you are a Christian and finding it difficult to embrace your role as a homemaker, I would highly suggest searching scripture to see what God has to say about it.
And God says he wants us to cast all our cares on him. So talk to him about your struggles. He wants to hear from you!
2. Learn from others who embrace homemaking
Attitudes are contagious!
Especially when it comes to being a wife and mother. If you are around someone who constantly complains about their role, it may be time to spend less time with that person.
I have had to cut back the time I spend with some women who constantly complained about their kids, husbands, and housework. That negativity was only causing me to think negatively.
The same goes for online groups. If you are part of Facebook groups or pages that constantly complain about motherhood or share memes about how hard it is to do #momlife, it may be time to unfollow. Even those subtle messages have an effect in our attitudes an perspectives about homemaking.
Find women in your life who love being homemakers as well. Encourage each other!
3. Know the “Why”
Keeping my home clean and organized isn’t a chore without a purpose. When I take care of my home, I am fulfilling a purpose. After reading the book Having a Martha Home the Mary Way*, I wrote out some simple reasons why I take care of my home.
- It is a way to show my family that they are important.
- I want our home to be a retreat from the crazy world.
- It is a way to bring glory to God.
- I want our home to be clean yet comfortable to our guests.
If you have never sat down and thought about your “why” for homemaking, I would encourage you to do it. This simple activity gives purpose to scrubbing the bathroom and folding the laundry! Knowing why you do all of those household chores makes it much easier to embrace homemaking.
4. View as a Job
When I started viewing my role at home as a job, I noticed a huge shift in my efficiency at home.
I started getting dressed and ready for the day, even if I didn’t go anywhere. I made reasonable to-do lists. I took breaks. The same kinds of things that I did when I taught.
Just like I needed routines and schedules when I worked outside the home, I also needed them at home. Although I do stay pretty flexible.
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If you want to embrace homemaking, continue to learn and grow. The more confident you feel as a homemaker, the easier it is.
And when the going gets really tough, think back to your “why”. Knowing why you are making meals, scrubbing toilets, and cleaning up spills is often the best motivation!
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