Do you struggle figuring out how to enjoy being a stay at home mom?
So when I became a stay at home mom after working full time for 9 years, I had a difficult time adjusting.
Very quickly I found myself despising my new role. I would wake up and think, “Another day of changing diapers, feeding a baby, cleaning the house, and paying the bills. Wasn’t I made to do more than this?!”
After feeling this way for months, I decided things HAD to change.
It took time and a change in perspective, but I’ve grown to love being a stay at home mom and take great pride in my work as a homemaker.
In fact, this blog has grown because of that. Since being a stay at home mom didn’t come naturally for me, I figured other women may need encouragement too.
How to Enjoy Being a Stay at Home Mom
1. Find out what God’s Word says about homemaking.
The first thing I did was ask God to help me. Sometimes I forget to take my struggles to the Lord, but at this time, I knew that was where I needed to start.
He led me to Titus 2:3-5, and all of a sudden that passage seemed more applicable to me than ever before.
Titus 2:3-5 “Likewise, teach the older women to be reverent in the way they live, not to be slanderers or addicted to much wine, but to teach what is good. 4 Then they can urge the younger women to love their husbands and children, 5 to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God.”
I also read lots of scripture about being content (Philippians 4:10-13) and working hard (Colossians 3:23-24).
If you are a Christian and finding it difficult to embrace your role as a stay at home mom, I would highly suggest searching scripture to see what God has to say about it.
And God says he wants us to cast all our cares on him. So talk to him about your struggles. He wants to hear from you!
2. Learn from others who enjoy being stay at home moms
Attitudes are contagious!
Especially when it comes to being a wife and mother. If you are around someone who constantly complains about their role, it may be time to spend less time with that person.
I have had to cut back the time I spend with some women who constantly complained about their kids, husbands, and housework. That negativity was only causing me to think negatively.
The same goes for online groups. If you are part of Facebook groups or pages that constantly complain about motherhood or share memes about how hard it is to do #momlife, it may be time to unfollow. Even those subtle messages have an effect in our attitudes and perspectives about homemaking.
Find women in your life who love being homemakers as well. Encourage each other!
If you have a hard time finding them in real life, remember that the people you follow and listen to online also play a big role in your life. Be sure to subscribe to my YouTube channel for weekly encouragement for stay at home moms!
3. Know the reason why you are a stay at home mom
Keeping my home clean and organized isn’t a chore without a purpose. When I take care of my home, I am fulfilling a purpose. After reading the book Having a Martha Home the Mary Way*, I wrote out some simple reasons why I take care of my home.
- It is a way to show my family they are important.
- I want our home to be a retreat from the crazy world.
- It is a way to bring glory to God.
- I want our home to be clean yet comfortable to our guests.
If you have never sat down and thought about your “why” for homemaking, I would encourage you to do it. This simple activity gives purpose to scrubbing the bathroom and folding the laundry! Knowing why you do all of those household chores makes it much easier to embrace homemaking.
Also, be specific about the reasons why you want to be home with your kids. Remind yourself daily why you chose to stay home with them, and be sure to invest time into their precious little lives!
4. Treat being a stay at home mom as a job.
When I started viewing my role as a stay at home mom as a job, I noticed a HUGE shift in my productivity and at home.
I started getting dressed and ready for the day, even if I didn’t go anywhere. I made reasonable to-do lists. I took breaks. The same kinds of things that I did when I was a teacher.
Just like I needed routines and schedules when I worked outside the home, I also needed them at home. Although I do stay pretty flexible.
If you need help with schedules and routines, make sure you get access to my Free Balanced Mom Printable Pack where you can get free printables to help you create your own routines. You can get access for free when you sign up for my weekly email newsletter.
These are helpful posts about routines to check out as well:
If you want to embrace homemaking, continue to learn and grow. The more confident you feel as a stay at home mom, the easier it is.
And when the going gets really tough, think back to your “why”. Knowing why you are making meals, scrubbing toilets, and loving on your kids is often the best motivation!
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