Your every day interactions with your children let them know you love and value them.
But if you aren’t intentional with your interactions, you may miss some simple yet important things you can do.
Let’s talk about what you can do today!
How to Make Your Child Feel Loved and Valued
Do Something They Love
Many parents get busy doing things for their children, but forget to do things with their children. Every once in awhile, you need to stop being busy and get down on their level to do things they enjoy.
What ever your child loves doing, make a commitment to spend some time with them this week doing that activity together.
Break out the coloring books and crayons and color with them. Pull out the bikes and ride around the neighborhood as a family.
Play house, race cars, build legos, and have pretend tea.
I know how easy it is to simply say, “no” when your kids ask to do things with you because you are busy. You have responsibilities, right?
But I want to encourage you to say “yes” when you can. Even if it is only for 10 minutes, that is still quality time spent with your child that will make them feel valued.
Listen to Them
We all need to be heard, and that includes children. Their stories may be filled with every little detail that you really don’t need to know, but listening to them is an important way to demonstrate that you love them.
And let me tell ya, kids know when we are really listening and when we are just half paying attention. They are pretty intuitive.
So if at all possible stop what you are doing, make eye contact, and really listen when your children tells a story or shares a concern.
Sometimes I have no clue what my two year old is telling me, but I try to make a conscious effort to get down on her level and let her know I’m listening to what she has to say. Sometimes I figure it out. Sometimes I don’t!
But she knows that what she has to say is valuable to me.
Let Them Know You are Proud of Them
Children want to please others, especially their parents. You can show them your love by letting them know you think they are special.
Designate a specific place in your home for displaying your child’s artwork or papers from school. It doesn’t have to be perfect or fancy.
If you have a magnetic refrigerator, assign a special magnet for displaying your child’s work. I used a ribbon and clothespins from my craft supplies to make a simple display.
Another way to show your children you are proud of them is to simply tell them. Think about all of the things you say to your child each day.
How much of it is giving instructions or correcting behavior?
Now compare that to how often you share encouragement with your child.
Let me be super honest with you, if I’m not careful, I find myself correcting my children’s behavior or giving them instructions more than I give them positive feedback.
They needs both.
Laugh With Them
When you share a laugh with your children, you share a special bond. In the busyness of life it is easy to forget to laugh. But kids love to laugh and be goofy.
Let your guard down and share a laugh with your child over something they say or an inside joke.
We all love giving gifts to our children and children love receiving gifts, but love can be shown in so many others ways besides just a big pile under the Christmas tree or the amount of gifts on their birthday.
I hope this has given lots of ways to show your children they are loved and valued!