I think the best teacher is experience. That is so very true when it comes to motherhood.
You live and (hopefully) you learn.
In some ways I’m thankful I get a second try at this mom gig. I don’t regret anything from when my first was born, but I’ve learned that there are some things I want to change for this second baby.
Let me know if you can relate!
1. Block out all of the “advice”
Wow! There is so much advice that a new mom gets from family, friends, and complete strangers. Unfortunately, I let a lot of their
opinions advice get in my head the first time around.
It caused me to second guess myself A LOT. My husband would often say to me, “You’re the mom. Do what you think is best and don’t worry about what someone else thinks.”
This time around, I’m going to trust my instinct more often and stick to the only mom advice that I need.
2. Spending $$ on a going home outfit
I’m a cheapskate through and through, and I thought going home outfits were silly. Why spend a fortune on a little outfit for one short event?!
But after the huge task of giving birth, I realized that it IS a big deal bringing your new one home for the first time. So this time around, I’m going to splurge on a pretty little outfit* that I want to bring my baby girl home in.
3. Wear maternity clothes home from the hospital
I had no idea that I would still look 6 months pregnant after I gave birth! It took a few days to finally look “unpregnant”.
When I had my son, I packed elastic waist pants and an oversized t-shirt to wear home from the hospital. I barely squeezed into them and was SO uncomfortable on the way home! This time around, I’m packing my maternity leggings* and a maternity top!
4. Announce name at birth
We let people know our son’s name shortly after we found out we were having a boy. It just didn’t seem special.
So with our second baby, we plan to share her name when she is born. We think it will be much more special this way and we will get to introduce her at the same time that we share her name! Plus it’s fun keeping it a secret. 🙂
5. Follow a routine
During the first year of my son’s life, I was basically a zombie. I did not get one complete night of sleep that entire year! I don’t want a repeat of that with the second baby, so I read the book Baby Wise* that was recommended by a friend. The book was a little overwhelming in the first few chapters, but once I got to the actual tips, I ended up finding new ideas to try with this baby.
A word of caution about this book: It is wordy and full of statistics which can be overwhelming. I skimmed through some parts and underlined the sections that applied to me.
I cannot tell you how excited I am to try this method the second time around! If it works, I’ll be sure to share my experience with you a few months after the baby is born.
So what did you do differently after your first born?