What I’m Doing Differently with My Second Baby

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I think the best teacher is experience. That is so very true when it comes to motherhood.

You live and (hopefully) you learn.

In some ways I’m thankful I get a second try at this mom gig. I don’t regret anything from when my first was born, but I’ve learned that there are some things I want to change for this second baby.

Let me know if you can relate!

5 Things I'm Doing Differently with my second baby. Practical tips that I learned from the first time around!

1. Block out all of the “advice”

Wow! There is so much advice that a new mom gets from family, friends, and complete strangers. Unfortunately, I let a lot of their opinions advice get in my head the first time around.

It caused me to second guess myself A LOT. My husband would often say to me, “You’re the mom. Do what you think is best and don’t worry about what someone else thinks.”

This time around, I’m going to trust my instinct more often and stick to the only mom advice that I need.


2. Spending $$ on a going home outfit

I’m a cheapskate through and through, and I thought going home outfits were silly. Why spend a fortune on a little outfit for one short event?!

But after the huge task of giving birth, I realized that it IS a big deal bringing your new one home for the first time. So this time around, I’m going to splurge on a pretty little outfit* that I want to bring my baby girl home in.

baby sister coming home outfit

3. Wear maternity clothes home from the hospital

I had no idea that I would still look 6 months pregnant after I gave birth! It took a few days to finally look “unpregnant”.

When I had my son, I packed elastic waist pants and an oversized t-shirt to wear home from the hospital. I barely squeezed into them and was SO uncomfortable on the way home! This time around, I’m packing my maternity leggings* and a maternity top!


4. Announce name at birth

We let people know our son’s name shortly after we found out we were having a boy. It just didn’t seem special.

So with our second baby, we plan to share her name when she is born. We think it will be much more special this way and we will get to introduce her at the same time that we share her name! Plus it’s fun keeping it a secret. 🙂


5. Follow a routine

During the first year of my son’s life, I was basically a zombie. I did not get one complete night of sleep that entire year! I don’t want a repeat of that with the second baby, so I read the book Baby Wise* that was recommended by a friend. The book was a little overwhelming in the first few chapters, but once I got to the actual tips, I ended up finding new ideas to try with this baby.

A word of caution about this book: It is wordy and full of statistics which can be overwhelming. I skimmed through some parts and underlined the sections that applied to me.

I cannot tell you how excited I am to try this method the second time around! If it works, I’ll be sure to share my experience with you a few months after the baby is born.

Baby Wise


So what did you do differently after your first born?


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6 thoughts on “What I’m Doing Differently with My Second Baby

  1. I hope the suggestions work in that book. We need our sleep! Congratulations on a baby girl!

  2. Great tips! I deleted the diaper/feeding tracker app much quicker with #2, stressed much less about his milestones and routines and was more confident in my own parenting the second time around. I definitely wore maternity clothes for a bit after my babies were born. It just didn’t make sense to try to squeeze into uncomfortable clothes. Love that going home outfit! Definitely worth the splurge.

    1. I’m so excited about that outfit! It’s just too cute. I totally agree about the milestones. They are not something to stress about as much as I thought.

  3. Please be cautious about Baby Wise as it has been tied to failure to thrive and its methods are not recommended by the American Academy of Pediatrics. There are other, better books available that will also help you get a routine going that will be healthy and helpful.

    1. Thank you for your caution, Em. I looked into your warnings, and it seems that the FTT and the statements made by the AAP are in regards to the first edition of the book where mothers adhered to very strict feeding schedules and let their babies cry for long periods of time. The edition that I read was careful to point out that the schedule is flexible and a baby should be fed if they are hungry regardless of any schedule. It also said not to let babies cry for more than 15 minutes and to be aware of the different types of cries. My main take-aways from the book are to create a nap and bedtime routine with a set bed time and morning wake up time. (things I didn’t do with my first born) I also plan to read Moms on Call as it has been recommend to me too. I’ll take the parts that I think will work from both books and use what is right for us. Again thank you for your comment and sharing your concern.

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