“The homemaker has the ultimate career. All other careers exist for one purpose only – and that is to support the ultimate career. ” ― C.S. Lewis
Do you believe that you have the ultimate career or do you need some stay at home motivation?
Let me be honest, when I am cleaning pee off the bathroom floor, I certainly don’t feel like I have the ultimate career.
Or when I am sweeping up a million little pieces of rice from supper, I don’t say to myself,
“You have made it. Now this is the life!” 🙂
If I’m not careful, I start to think the opposite and get discouraged as a stay at home mom. That discouragement then leads me to losing my motivation.
But I’ve learned what to do when a lack of motivation strikes and now you’ll know too!
Be sure to get your copy of the Balanced Mom Checklist so you know exactly what to do each day for a clean house even with kids!
Be okay with not doing it all.
When there is just SO much to do, that is often when we feel like giving up. It feels impossible to do it all.
In 2017 I faced two very specific times that caused my usual routines to get uprooted.
In January I became desperately sick with hyperemesis graviderium, a very severe form of morning sickness. I was basically helpless for a little over a month.
I barely had energy to get out of bed.
All cleaning and other household chores were put on hold for weeks.
Then when my daughter was born in September, I was able to do much more than I did in January, but our routines and normal housework were put on hold for a while as I healed and cared for my newborn.
During both of those times, I gave myself permission to step away from my usual routines and housework.
It is important that we as moms always think realistically about the season we are in and not put too much pressure on ourselves to do too much.
Knowing what to focus on is the answer.
That’s why I created the FREE Balanced Mom Checklist. It gives you the jumpstart needed to focus on the things that really matter.
Keep the house clean and get dinner on the table without the mom guilt!
Clearly define your priorities.
Is it spending quality time with your family, providing healthy meals, having a clean house, time for your hobbies, ect?
Take an honest look at your life.
Does your life reflect your priorities?
Do you need to make changes in your life to reflect them?
When I was on my journey of simplifying my life, I realized that my desire for a clean home was taking time away from my son each day.
I found ways to still have a clean home but not spend so much time cleaning that I miss out on valuable time with him.
Related Post: How I cut back on cleaning time.
Be intentional with how you spend your day.
Nothing is going to change in your life unless you deliberately make changes.
If you see that you are starting to fall of the wagon, do what it takes to stay on the wagon.
Make choices that will keep you on.
Specifically you can…
- get dressed every day
- make a list of 3 things to accomplish each day
- turn electronics off or other distractions until you get those things done.
Once you get the ball rolling, it will be easier to continue.
Know why you are a homemaker.
If you are just cleaning the floors, folding laundry, making supper, and chauffeuring your kids around, you may lose sight of why you are doing all of those tasks and it will become a chore, a burden, something you want to get out of doing.
To find your why, get out a pen and paper and write out your why for everything you have a hard time doing.
For instance here are reasons I do the dishes:
- My family needs clean plates to eat off of.
- I need clean pots and pans to cook with.
- My family needs food to survive.
- Food brings my family joy and comfort.
- Having clean dishes to serve food on is a way that I care for my family.
- Washing the dishes shows my kids responsibility.
- Cleaning the dishes saves my family money so that we don’t have to go out to eat.
Washing the dishes is MUCH more than just washing dishes!
Knowing my why motivates me to wash them every day.
I hope this was an encouragement to you. Mom, you are doing the most important work!
It may not seem like it right now, but these everyday things will add up to a lifetime of investment in our families. That is such an awesome responsibility!
It gives me goosebumps every time I think about the privilege I have to create a home that will help shape and grow my kids into healthy, thriving adults.