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As a stay at home mom, you are on call all the time which can easily lead to burnout.
It is draining on the body, mind, and, heart. All of this can easily lead to a stay at home mom with depression.
You don’t get time to themselves or scheduled lunch breaks. You are changing diapers, cutting food into bite size pieces, making crafts, reading books, playing outside, wiping away tears, and listening to little ones questions and cries all day long.
When you are a depressed stay at home mom, it looks like this.
- You lack joy as a mom.
- You feel exhausted.
- You don’t have energy to care for yourself.
- You are overwhelmed by everything.
- You are tired and irritable.
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I believe stay at home mom depression isn’t talked about because society doesn’t understand how in the world we could be struggling while we are “living the life”!
In their eyes we have what they want:
No boss. No time clock. No commute. No co-workers.
I can’t tell you how many times I’ve told people I’m a stay at home mom, and I get a reply about how lucky I am or how they are jealous of me or they wish they could stay at home with their kids too.
Also, it is hard to admit that we struggle with stay at home mom depression because most of us choose to stay home.
We gave up careers and traded in bigger paychecks so that we could be home with our kids.
So why are stay at home moms depressed?
I think it boils down to a few things.
- You’ve forgotten to take care of yourself.
- You haven’t figured out why you are stay at home mom.
- And third, you don’t understand your worth.
Overcome Stay at Home Mom Depression and Burnout:
1. Take care of yourself too.
It is so easy to focus on all the needs of your family and household that you forget to take care of yourself. But in order to take care of everyone else, you have to have energy yourself.
Make a list of the habits that energize you. Are you doing them? If not, it is time to start making those habits a priority.
Here are some quick ideas for taking care of yourself:
- Get enough sleep.
- Drink enough water. I love using my insulated tumbler*.
- Take breaks throughout the day.
- Allow for quiet times when you have a chance to think.
- Plan to get out of the house and interact with adults.
- Keep a gratitude journal and focus your mind on positive things.
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2. Clearly state WHY you are a stay at home mom.
It always rubs me the wrong way when people refer to me as “just” a stay at home mom. I know they probably don’t mean anything by it and aren’t trying to hurt me.
But when I hear the word just in front of stay at home mom, it’s like they are saying that stay at home moms “don’t do anything.” They just stay home.
Don’t give into that lie. What you do as a stay at home mom has far reaching influence. You are making the home and your family a priority.
Parents give children their first understanding of love, security, and self worth. So the fact that you choose to pour into your children’s lives day in and day out, reading the same book 5 times in a row and patiently dealing with toddler temper tantrums means you are letting your family know they are important.
But in the midst of it all, it can become routine to a point where you forget WHY you are doing these things.
Remember that you aren’t just washing the dishes. The reason you have dirty dishes in the first place is you provided a meal for your family’s physical needs.
You aren’t just folding clean clothes. You are making sure your husband has clothes to wear to work and your kids have clothes to wear so they can learn and grow.
You aren’t just listening to your child talk, you are letting them know you love them and are interested in what they have to say.
If there is a homemaking task that is especially hard for you or makes you feel overwhelmed, take a moment to write down the many reasons why you do it.
Then refer to that list, when you feel discouraged.
3. Find your self worth outside of being a mom.
Society often equates self-worth with job titles. So as a stay at home mom it can be hard to feel like you have self worth.
If you worked outside the home before becoming a stay at home mom, you had a job title. You got dressed up for work. You followed a routine and schedule.
Then everything changed…No job to get ready for each day. No job description telling me what my responsibilities were. No schedule to follow.
You probably feel like the maid and like your whole life revolves around your kids.
If you feel this way, make sure you are doing things besides taking care of the home and kids.
- start a new stay at home mom hobby
- pick up an old hobby that you may have given up
- start a blog or YouTube channel
- set personal goals
- read books
- meet up with friends
4. View being a stay at home mom as a job.
While you may not have an official job with a paycheck, you have the MOST important job of your life, and you need to start thinking of it that way.
Treat your role as a stay at home mom as a job (that you love).
- Get dressed every day.
- Follow a daily stay at home mom schedule.
- Plan out your tasks.
And remember that above all else you are glorifying God with what you are doing. Here are some verses that helped me realize what I was doing as a stay at home mom has high worth.
Colossians 3:17 “And whatever you do in word or deed, do everything in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him.”
Ecclesiastes 9:10 “Whatever your hand finds to do, do it with all your might.”
Psalm 127:3 “Children are a gift from the Lord. They are a reward from him.”
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