When you are home all day with no boss or job description, it’s hard to know what to do with your time. You may even wonder how to be a successful stay at home mom.
I had the same problem when I first became a stay at home mom.
There was no official start to my day, so I didn’t know what to do with myself. Some days I would stay in my pajamas or work out clothes ALL. DAY. LONG.
Then about an hour before my husband would get home, I figured I should do something. So I’d quick throw a load of laundry in, pull out something for supper, and jump in the shower.
It’s a little embarrassing to admit…
But I know that I’m not the only one.
If you are reading this and feel like you are the only one, please know you are not.
Maybe you can’t completely relate to me.
Maybe you are pretty good about getting showered and dressed in the morning and staying on top of the laundry.
But you know you that you waste a lot of time during the day and could be more productive at home.
Let me tell ya, we stay at home moms ALL feel like this from time to time. You are not alone.
I love the quote “It’s okay to not be okay. But it’s not okay to stay that way.” Instead let’s talk about how to use our time better as stay at home moms.
How to be a Successful Stay at Home Mom
Focus on one thing at a time.
Many times, we try to multi-task thinking this will help us get more done. But what often happens is we take longer to accomplish tasks and don’t do them well.
As moms we…
- cook supper
- text a friend
- answer the kids’ questions
- fill up the dishwasher
All. at. the. same. time.
We think we are getting a bunch of stuff done and we can’t believe how busy we are.
But what really happens is…
- we burn supper
- the kids get ignored
- you forget to start the dishwasher.
You are doing TOO much at the same time. If you stop multitasking, I can just about guarantee that you will get more done and do things better.
I used to be the queen of multitasking, but I certainly wasn’t the queen of my household!
I felt like I was doing two things at one time, but the truth is I’m much faster and more effecient when my focus is completely on the task at hand. I used to clean the bathroom and watch YouTube videos, but that was only slowing me down because my attention was divided.
Now I clean the bathrooms much faster without distractions. Then I have more time to simply sit down and watch the YouTube video and fully enjoy it later.
I also used to listen to podcasts while cooking supper. What ended up happening was I kept messing up supper because I was distracted.
Another thing that has helped me is putting my phone on my kitchen counter instead of carrying it around in my pocket.
It’s so easy to grab my phone and start scrolling throughout the day. This wastes SO much time and distracts me from my kids and what really has value.
Now when I want to be on my phone, I’m on my phone.
I have time that I set aside to just chill and check Facebook or watch YouTube videos. And I’ve found it so much more enjoyable than getting on my phone while I’m doing something else.
When you are able to focus on one thing, you are able to give all of your time, energy, and brain power to that one task.
And guess what?
You are able to do it well.
BUT…. if you focus on a bunch of things and are constantly interrupted, you divide your time, energy, and brain power. And you don’t do any of those things well.
Follow a Successful Stay at Home Mom Routine.
Everyone thrives on flexible routines.
It took me awhile to figure this out. For months I stressed myself out, didn’t get enough sleep, and had a hard time getting things done.
Then one day, it finally occured to me that when I was teaching, I followed routines to manage my time and I needed that at home too.
Because after all, being a stay at home mom is a job too even though I don’t receive a monetary paycheck.
Do you follow routines at home?
If not, you may feel like you are running around all day, but not accomplishing much. If you want to know how stay at home moms are effecient, the answer is routines.
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You, your kids, and your husband all benefit from following routines.
Your family doesn’t have to wonder if their clothes are clean or if there will be supper on the table.
If you need help getting those things done, grab the FREE Balanced Mom Checklist!
It will show you what to do to keep a clean house, get dinner on the table each night, and spend quality time with your kids!
Now, I feel like I need to share a BIG warning here.
If you are a rule follower, it’s easy to become rigid and have the mentality of follow-the-routines-or-else!
That is dangerous.
Routines are meant to make your life easier and give you the time to enjoy life. They should not be a burden or get in the way of enjoying your life.
That means your routines are specific to YOU.
When I started following cleaning routines, I copied a few different people’s routines, but the problem was that their schedule didn’t work with mine.
My husband had a crazy work schedule at the time. It was not the typical 9-5 job which meant my schedule was crazy too.
Following someone else’s cleaning routine only led to frustration. I became much more effecient at home when I created and followed my own routines.
Learn from my mistake and create your OWN schedules and routines.
Once you create and follow through with your routines, you’ll find that you are much more productive at home and it may even feel like you have more time in your day!
I often get asked how to make time for hobbies or devotions as a stay at home mom. My answer?
Routines allow you to manage your time and focus on doing what needs to get done.
So really my two tips go hand in hand. A routine is simply a plan that focuses on accomplishing one thing at a time.
When you follow a flexible plan for the day and stay focused on one task at a time, you will find that you are much more productive at home.
So now, it’s time to create your own household routines!
No more wondering what you are supposed to do all day.
End your day with pride of all that you accomplished instead of wondering where all your time went!