You may love your kids and love being a mom, but let’s face it, there are days when it can be hard being a happy stay at home mom.
There’s a lot that you deal with each day emotional and physically.
I’ve been a stay at home mom for almost 5 years now, and each of these items are nonnegotiable for my happiness as a mom and woman.
Keep reading to find out what you need to be a happy stay at home mom!
GIVE YOURSELF GRACE
So…. have you ever messed up as a mom?
Every day, right?! There are absolutely no perfect moms out there, no matter what others may tell you. Ha!
We all have bad mom moments and days, but sometimes we blow those moments out of proportion and call ourselves a “bad mom”. We are often our greatest crictics.
Here’s how to give yourself grace:
- Aim for good enough, not perfection.
- Fess up when you mess up.
- Forgive your kids, husband, and yourself quickly.
- Allow for wiggle room in your schedule.
- Only compare yourself to YOURSELF not some one else.
QUIET TIME FOR MOM
Kids are loud and when you are around it all day long, it can wear a mom out. It’s important to have quiet time to yourself so you can think, clear your thoughts, and concentrate on your own well being.
All of that will make you a happier mom!
This is especially true if you are an introvert, but I believe all mothers (people in general) need quiet time to reflect.
Fight for these quiet moments. Schedule them. Make them nonnegotiable!
1.Get up 15 minutes before your kids. If that sounds extremely hard to do, read this post about how to wake up before your kids even if you aren’t a morning person.
2. Have independent play time for your kids each day. The quiet is good for them too because it forces them to get creative instead of being entertained all the time. Boredom is actually good for your kids!
3. Express your need to your spouse and come up with a time each week that you can have alone time out of the house.
A MOM FRIEND
Being a stay at home mom can be lonely, really lonely. The only way to get around that is to interact with other people.
Go where moms are:
- Join a MOPS group.
- Go to library reading programs.
- Talk to other moms at the park or school.
- Start a conversation with moms at church.
How to start conversations with other moms.
- Genuinely compliment their outfit.
- Ask about their kids.
- Ask if they have been to “such and such event” before.
If they give you more than one word answers, and carry on the conversation by asking about you too, you may have found a friend!
Remember, you don’t just need a friend. Other moms need you to be a friend too!
AN OUTFIT THAT YOU CAN ROCK
Your hair may be doing it’s own thing and you may have only had 5 minutes to get yourself ready, but what you put on should make you feel good.
You need a go-to outfit that you can put on and feel confident facing the world. Maybe it’s not even an entire outfit, but a pair of shoes or earrings that just helps you hold your head a little higher and tackle the day.
Life is too short to wear clothes that make us feel miserable. So make sure you have clothes that make you feel good even if you are at home all day.
You and your family deserve the best version of yourself, so let your outside reflect that.
Picking up toys, changing diapers, washing dishes, folding clothes, the list goes on….
All of those mundane daily tasks can start to feel like a burden and it’s easy to become burnt out and even resentful.
However, when you think about the reason behind all of those tasks, you can’t help but be thankful. When you are thankful, it makes your day as a stay at home mom a lot more enjoyable.
WALMART GROCERY PICKUP
No, this is not a sponsored post. This is just a genuine statement: I-LOVE-WALMART-GROCERY-PICKUP!
Nothing beats having someone else shop for you and load it all in your car. Seriously, it’s the best gift for moms.
Thank you, Walmart.
A MOM BEDTIME
I had NO IDEA how little sleep I could survive on until I became a mom. But survive is exactly what I did. I didn’t thrive. I was just making it through the day.
Your body needs sleep, but as a mom it is often limited because you may have a baby who wakes during the night, kids that have bad dreams or get sick… You just never really know for sure how much sleep you are going to get each night as a parent.
BUT — You can determine what time you go to bed. It’s tempting to stay up late after your children go to bed so you can enjoy your free time, but you will pay for it the next day. Make sure you go to bed early enough to get the sleep you need.
That’s why it’s important to have your own designated bedtime. In fact, studies show that when you got to bed at a consistent time, you are actually able to fall asleep faster.
SENSE OF HUMOR
Life is unpredictable, especially with kids!
Things won’t always go as planned. Your kids will embarrass you. And you know, sometimes the best thing you can do is simply laugh.
When you don’t take unimportant things too seriously, life is a lot more enjoyable.
How often do you worry about your kids? If you answered every day, I believe you are like the majority of moms.
But worrying doesn’t help solve any problem. It just causes more stress and anxiety. I’ve even lost sleep because of my worry!
I know not everyone who reads my blog is a christian, but for those who are I encourage you to turn those worries into prayer.
I used to pray about things multiple times, but realized that was just another way of worrying! So now, when I’m tempted to worry about a particular situation with my kids, I pray and leave it there.
When you incorporate these things in your life, you will find that you are a much happier stay at home mom!