“Good Moms have sticky floors, messy kitchens, laundry piles, and happy kids.”
I’ve seen that quote all over the place, whether it’s been shared on social media or a farmhouse sign at the home decor store. It’s really popular among moms.
But I have to ask, Do we really believe this is true?
Does an unkept home mean I’m a good mom?
Are my kids really happy because the floors are sticky and they have no clean clothes to wear?
Because let me tell you, my kids’ emotions change in a split second, and I know it’s not dependent on whether or not the floor is mopped.
Can I get an amen?!
So why do we like quotes like this?
How do they get viral shares on social media and even hung up in our homes?
Let me give it to you straight. Here comes some REAL TALK!
We like these quotes because deep down we want to know we are good moms, but we are afraid that we aren’t.
These signs tell us that we are good without having to work for it.
It encourages us to settle for mediocre and easy.
You see, WE LIKE EASY.
We like comfortable.
And messy, dirty houses are easy. They don’t require work or self-discipline. They don’t require us to change or develop good habits.
Let’s face it, kids are messy. Being a mom is hard work. There are countless messes to clean up and clothes to fold.
But that doesn’t mean we just give up and don’t do anything about them.
Here’s the thing.
My kids are happy when they have clean clothes. They enjoy helping me cook in a clean kitchen.
Helping with household chores makes them feel proud of themselves.
And yes, you can have a clean house, supper on the table and still spend time with your kids. I share a free resource at the end of this article.
Quotes about good moms with sticky floors and the often quoted poem, “Babies Don’t Keep” are excuses.
Here are some lines from the poem that I just shake my head and say, “No!” every time I see it.
“….Dishes are waiting and bills are past due
Pat-a-cake, darling, and peek, peekaboo
The shopping’s not done and there’s nothing for stew
And out in the yard there’s a hullabaloo
But I’m playing Kanga and this is my Roo
Look! Aren’t his eyes the most wonderful hue?
Lullabye, rockaby lullabye loo.
The cleaning and scrubbing can wait till tomorrow
But children grow up as I’ve learned to my sorrow.
So quiet down cobwebs; Dust go to sleep!
I’m rocking my baby and babies don’t keep.”
You see, I had a home just like the one described in this poem.
- the bills were past due
- there was nothing for supper
- the laundry wasn’t done
- my house needed to be dusted
But I wasn’t happy and neither was my family.
In fact I was barely surviving.
Let’s get super honest here.
Is your kitchen really dirty because you were spending time with your children?
Is there no food in the house because you were rocking your baby?
Or were you distracted by other things like your phone, Netflix, book, or something else?
Now, of course being a mom is a lot of work! And young kids, especially babies need extra time and attention.
But they aren’t what is keeping us from having a clean home.
Let’s be honest here.
I can say that because I am a mom. So I’m not just pointing a finger at you. I got honest with myself and pointed that finger at myself.
I realized I was made for more than feeling like I could never get ahead on the laundry, never have a clean kitchen, never have supper ready.
I knew better, and I made changes.
I quit blaming my messy home on everyone and everything else and instead took ownership.
When I stopped blaming everyone else, I got the power back. I took responsibility for my sticky floors and started cleaning them as part of my weekly cleaning routine.
The burden of an overwhelming, messy house lifted when I realized that it didn’t have to stay that way. I had the power within myself to make changes. And I’m much happier. So is my family.
Get honest with yourself.
What is the REAL reason for your sticky floors?
Maybe you are distracted by other things. Or maybe you just don’t know how to balance it all.
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Have supper on the table and spend quality time with your kids.
It’s time to start enjoying your home again and stop feel like there is always something you are behind on.
Let’s change the mindset to something else.
I’M A GOOD MOM…
~ I’m a good mom because I’ve realized that we function better in a home that isn’t chaotic, messy, and dirty.
~ I’m a good mom because I teach my children how to be responsible and clean up their toys, wipe down the table, vacuum the floor, and make their beds.
~ I’m a good mom who occasionally has sticky floors.
~ I’m a good mom who throws in one load of laundry a day to keep it from piling up.
~ I’m a good mom who cleans the kitchen because my family likes to eat!