Homemaking is one of those terms that often gets used in a negative sense. It’s thought of as old fashioned. But what is homemaking really?
If you had met me 10 years ago, NEVER would I have described myself as a homemaker. At the time I was a young professional who worked full time outside the home with no kids.
BUT…. in 2014 I had my son and became what I consider a homemaker.
And I hated it!
I literally thought I was going to go insane as a stay at home mom. After living a miserable life for months, I finally decided I had to learn how to love being a homemaker by figuring out what homemaking actually is.
To my surprise I discovered that homemaking is not just for moms of young kids who don’t clock in and out at a job.
The answer is in the word itself, home – making.
If you have a home, you are making it whether you realize it or not.
You may be making it a good place or you may be making it a not so good place.
So, 10 years ago as a woman without children who worked full time outside the home, I was a homemaker! I just didn’t realize it.
And let me be super transparent with you.
10 years ago I was not making a home very well because I didn’t understand the importance of homemaking.
It took me YEARS of learning and practice to finally come to a place where I can say I love homemaking and I am proud to be a homemaker.
I currently work part time from home, and as my kids get older, I may decide to work outside the home again.
But I’ll still be a homemaker no matter what my job title is.
As the mom you probably are responsible for much of the home management tasks that are part of homemaking, but that is not all of homemaking.
Alright, let’s get practical.
What is Homemaking?
According to dictionary.com homemaking is the establishment or management of a home; duties of a homemaker.
Practically speaking that means all of the things that make up a home: cleaning, cooking, the decorations, the routines, the family time, the repairs and maintenance.
But homemaking is also creating a safe haven for your family.
Just turn on the nightly news or open up social media, and you’ll be quickly reminded that the world is not always a nice place.
You do this by setting the atmosphere in your home. What are some words that you want your home to be described as? Here are some ideas to get you started.
- Clean vs dirty
- Tidy vs Messy
- Peaceful vs Quarrelsome
- Positive vs Negative
- Consistent vs Sporadic
- Orderly vs Chaotic
- Inviting vs Repulsive
- Friendly vs Miserable
- Encouraging vs Condesending
When your husband gets home from a stressful day at work, what does he walk into? Is it a place of rest where he knows he can be at peace or is it just another stressful situation at home?
What about when your children return home after a hard day at school? are they eager to return home or is it a place of unrest?
I ask you this because I want you to get honest with yourself. If you don’t like your answers, then it’s time to make some changes.
If homemaking is a priority, it will show and your home will be a safe haven for your family, guests, and yourself.
So how do you get there?
What are helpful qualities of a homemaker?
Well, if I were going back in time to tell my former self a list of homemaking skills and qualities, I would include the following.
1. Create flexible household routines.
Routines are not about making a rigid life.
These routines assure me that those important tasks get done without a lot of effort or extra time thinking about them. They are part of the routine, so they get done and I’m free to go about my day doing fun things with my family.
2. Take care of yourself physically, emotionally, and spiritually.
Have you ever heard of that you can’t pour from an empty pitcher? It’s true. If no one makes a pitcher of iced tea, nobody drinks iced tea! You have to make the effort to fill up the pitcher in order to fill up glasses. The same is true for you as a homemaker. You have to invest in yourself and do things that give you energy in order to take care of your home and family.
3. Eliminate the clutter.
One of the best things I ever did for our family is eliminate the clutter in our home. Making supper on a counter top that is free of clutter is much more enjoyable than fighting all the clutter. It’s easier to clean when there is less stuff taking up valuable space in our home.
Now, it is not a once and done deal. I still have a box in my basement that I fill with donations and once it is full I take a trip to Goodwill and drop it off.
I have all kinds of posts filled with action steps for creating a clutter free home. Be sure to read them and learn how to live an abundant life at home with less stuff getting in your way!
4. Create routines for Meal Planning and Cleaning.
Those first several years I basically, just winged it when it came to cooking a cleaning. I didn’t know what I was doing and often felt overwhelmed. But when I decided to go all into homemaking and do my best as a homemaker, I created routines that erased the overwhelm that I felt.
- Instead of spending hours cleaning on the weekends, I followed a weekly cleaning schedule.
- Instead of doing load after load after load of laundry in one day, I now do one load a day. “A load of laundry a day, keep Laundry Mountain away!”
- Instead of dreading the question, “What’s for supper?” I created a simple plan. Here’s my Easy-Peasy Meal Planning Tips!
5. Love your people.
This is last, but the most important.
And that is the people in your home. It so easy to become focused on our household tasks, that we forget WHY we are homemakers. The reason why you create a home, is not for the sake of having a clean home, or decorated home, or impressing people.
It’s how we show our families that they are important to us.
I hope this has encouraged you whether or not you would consider yourself a full time homemaker. Because we are all making homes for our families – one of the most important jobs you will ever have!
Before you go, be sure to grab the Stay at Home Mom Checklist. If you feel overwhelmed as a stay at home mom, this is just what you need.