Are you having a rough day?
We’ve all had them.
You feel like everything is going wrong. You have no motivation to do anything.
Your kids are getting on your nerves. Your spouse doesn’t seem to be doing anything right.
It’s just a bad day!
When you are having a rough day, there are 3 things you should do.
First, admit that you are having a rough day.
Own up to the fact that it is YOUR bad day, not someone else’s. It’s so easy to blame a tough day on everyone and everything around us.
The person ahead of us in traffic doesn’t know how to drive.
Our kids won’t behave.
The list of excuses could go on and on…
And really maybe part of that is true. Maybe the guy ahead of you is a horrible driver. Maybe you got really bad news or failed miserably at something that day.
BUT- You are still in charge of your day and the attitude that you choose.
When you blame your day on someone else, you give them the power and you believe that you are helpless.
You’ll think that you can’t do anything to change your day which is not true!
However, when you take ownership of your rough day, you are able to decide what changes you need to make and move on and do better.
Second, ask yourself what is different about today that is making it a rough day?
Did something happen differently?
Did you not get enough sleep last night?
Did you leave the house late?
Did you have an argument with someone?
Did something on social media make you upset?
Are you an introvert, and didn’t have any quiet time that day?
As a stay at home mom, I’ve had a couple of really bad days where I just felt down and had no motivation. When I took the time to figure out why I was feeling that way, I realized it was that I hadn’t gotten up before my kids.
Now, I’m not saying that all moms should wake up before their children, but that really helps me start the day on the right foot.
It allows me to get myself ready for the day and prepare for meeting the demands of the day instead of jumping right into the day being a caretaker.
However, on those rough days, my kids had woken earlier than usual, and I allowed them to get out of bed instead of having them play in their rooms until I was able to have any quiet time to myself.
So ask yourself, “What is causing your bad day?”
Think through and pinpoint it. Because when you understand why you are having a tough day, then you’ll be able to do something about it!
Which brings us to the final thing you can do on a tough day.
Third, hit reset any time of day and turn your rough day around.
It doesn’t matter what time of day it is, you can turn your bad day around.
Stop whatever it is that you are doing and decide on an action step that will move you from having a bad day to having a great day!
Most likely, your rough day is happening in your mind. It’s important to fill your mind with positive thoughts and choose to meditate on happy things.
Here are some practical steps you can take:
- Write out a list of things you are thankful for.
- Drink a tall glass of ice water.
- Pray. If you are a Christian, just talk to God. He’s your friend. He wants to hear from you.
- Take a short walk outside if the weather permits. Otherwise, just get up and move around a bit.
- Listen to a positive podcast that you know will motivate you.
- Turn on positive, uplifting music.
- Do something of value and stay off social media.
If I notice that I’m having a bad mom day, I do what it takes to turn my day around even if it’s late in the afternoon. I’ll put a show on for the kids to watch, or I’ll have them play independently in their rooms, while I take care of myself.
Let me be super transparent with you.
Chances are, whenI’ve had a bad day as a mom, I didn’t get a shower that morning, or I only showered and didn’t put on any makeup or fix my hair.
So even in the middle of the afternoon, I put on enough makeup to make me feel good and fix my hair.
It really doesn’t take that long, but it makes such a difference in how I feel and the trajectory of my day.
Whatever it is that YOU need to do, hit reset and decide to change your rough day around before it spirals into another bad day.
Because that’s what happens.
One bad day becomes another bad day which turns into a bad week. The downward spiral continues until you decide enough is enough.
You take ownership of the day, get honest for the reasons why it’s not going well, and then take action to turn the day around.
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