You may look around at what all the other moms are doing on social media, Pinterest, or in real life, and feel like you need to be doing everything too.
So you try to do all the things because you want to be THAT mom. The one who has it altogether. The mom who makes sure her kids have the best childhood.
But the problem happens when you realize you just can’t do it all. Instead of feeling like a mom whose got it together, you feel like an overwhelmed mom.
You realize that you can’t balance it all.
But —- that is the problem.
An overwhelmed mom is doing too much.
There’s a lot of talk about balance and motherhood. I’ve heard a lot of people say that balance isn’t possible.
They say it’s a lie because as soon as you figure out one area of your life, a different area drops.
I want to give you a different perspective. Moms aren’t called to do all the things society pressures them to do.
You are called for a specific purpose and you can do what you are called to do. The problem is when you start doing more than you are truly called.
If you find yourself in the season of motherhood with young kids or busy teenagers, it’s okay to cut some things out that aren’t a priority. Those things may become a priority in less busy seasons but not right now.
Say “no” to the things that don’t add to you and your family’s overall well being.
I used to be so overwhelmed with everything I had to do each day and would say that there just wasn’t enough time in the day to do it all.
But one day I felt convicted that God made 24hours in a day and he Doesn’t make mistakes. So that is enough time.
I came to the conclusion that the problem wasn’t that there wasn’t enough time. The problem was I was trying to do too much and not using my time efficiently.
I had to figure out was “ALL” that I needed to do. In other words, I had to determine what was MY priority and make sure my day reflected my priorities, not what other people felt like should be a priority.
If you feel like you can’t do it all, take a look at your priorities.
You have to know what is “ALL” for you, and do it.
- What is really important to you in this season?
- Does your life currently reflect those priorities?
- Are you trying to balance more than you need to be?
I believe wholeheartedly that we have enough time to accomplish all that we are called to do as mothers.
For me, it is a priority to take care of my home and family which means maintaining a clean home, preparing healthy meals, and spending quality time with my family. It’s also a priority that I work from home and homeschool my son.
But I can’t do any of that if I don’t first take care of myself. So I make self care a priority, because when I care for myself, I can better care for my home and family.
It all comes full circle because when my family is taken care of, they function better in life and influence the world for good. My husband functions better at work and as a dad. My kids are happy.
I want that for you too! That’s why I created the FREE Stay at Home Mom Checklist. It will help you have a clean house, supper on the table, and quality time with your kids.
Get your copy today and find that balance you so desperately want!
Get intentional with your time.
Once you know what is a priority, you’ll be able to focus your time on those things instead of wasting your time on things that aren’t important.
When I didn’t know what was a priority, I was overwhelmed with everything and didn’t know what to do first. My house was a mess. I had no idea what to cook for supper. And I had no motivation to care for myself.
All because I was overwhelmed with it all.
So what I had to do was create flexible routines that helped me get intentional with how I spent my time and focus on one priority at a time.
This caused my feeling of overwhelm to go way down!
The same is true for you. When you feel overwhelmed with the huge responsibility of being a mom, break it down into manageable parts by creating routines that help you focus on one thing at a time.
Simplify what overwhelms you.
Sometimes moms make things WAY too complicated. Personally, I used to put unrealistic expectations on myself.
I expected a perfectly clean home and would spend hours a day cleaning. I expected big meals with complicated directions for supper and wasted a lot of time learning new recipes.
However when I let go of those expectations, that’s when I learned the freedom that comes from simplifying.
You can specifically simplify these areas as a mom:
- self care
- spending time with kids
Are you putting crazy high expectations on yourself and your kids?
That is leading to feelings of overwhelm. Don’t aim for perfect. Aim for good enough.
Related post: 4 Ways Moms Can Simplify