Let’s face it. Our kids are super important to us, but coming up with ways to spend quality time with them is sometimes hard.
Every day you accomplish the same things with your kids like meals, getting them dressed, car rides, chores, morning routines, and bedtime.
It is so easy to rush our kids through these daily events and not really make a connection with them. However, those are times you can intentionally make those every day moments count.
Glad you asked!
It boils down to a few things: slowing down, avoiding distractions, and being intentional.
Slow down when you are with your kids.
You get busy rushing from one errand to another, meeting a friend, or going to an event. Then when you are home you catch up on the housework, make supper, give baths, change diapers, and finally get everyone in bed.
At the end of the day, you realize there was no real time spent connecting with your kids.
I know that all too well.
Several months into motherhood, I took an honest look at how I was spending my days and realized I wasn’t connecting with my baby.
I was simply getting through my daily routine with him beside me.
I realized that spending quality time with my son meant I had to slow down to his pace and notice the little things that kids often pick up on and adults miss.
By the way, if you are struggling to slow down and feel like you can’t balance it all, get the free Balanced Mom Checklist.
Keep the house clean. Get dinner on the table. AND take care of yourself, Mom!
Get your free copy today, and find balance.
I still have to remind myself to slow down and intentionally connect with my kids each day.
But the good thing I’ve learned is spending quality time with your kids doesn’t have to be complicated.
You don’t have to do a bunch of Pinterest, perfect activities or play dinosaurs for an hour! You can make real connections easily by being intentional and avoiding distractions.
How to not be distracted around your family.
As you seek to spend quality time with your kids, remember it’s not just about the amount of time. You may be in the same room as your children but completely focused on your phone or the television. This is not really high quality time.
I’m not saying you can’t watch TV with your kids in the room. We love having family movie nights and my son will even watch a little Fixer Upper with me. He loves Chip!
But make sure you are spending some intentional quality time with your kids without distractions.
Here are some specific things you can do.
- Turn off unimportant phone notifications.
- Put your phone in a designate place instead of your hands or pocket when you are with your children.
- Set work hours and stick to them.
- Turn off the TV.
- Deal with your own emotions that may be distracting you.
- Turn off thoughts about work, to-do lists, or other things that you may replay in your mind.
What is your biggest distraction keeping you from spending quality time with your kids?
Be honest with yourself and take the time to write out specific ways you could makes some changes.
Daily Opportunities for Quality Time with your Kids
1. Make the mundane fun.
Make connections during everyday routine tasks.
The first way I did this was when my oldest was a baby. I used to put his clothes on and not even talk to him.
Then one day it occurred to me that he was lying there looking at me. Why not talk to him?
So I did.
I would count the buttons on his shirt, tell him the colors of his clothes, or sing “Jesus Loves Me.”
He couldn’t talk, but his face lit up! He would smile and laugh and coo. It was an easy way to make a connection while doing a routine task.
You can do the same thing. Depending on your kid’s ages and abilities, some may not apply, but here are times to make connections.
- putting shoes on
- giving a bath
- brushing teeth
- car rides
2. Meal time is another great way to spend quality time with your kids.
It’s easy to scroll through your phone, turn on the TV, or use the time to catch up on chores.
But doing that is missing out on an opportunity to spend time with your kids.
Try eating at the table together as much as possible and have real conversations as a family. Here are 50 family dinner conversation starters from Six Sisters’ Stuff.
3. Involve your kids in chores along side you.
Involving your kids in chores should be a gradual process. I started having my kids do chores when my oldest was a toddler. Just think about what your children are capable of doing and show them how to do them.
You may already give chores to your kids, but what if you worked along side them at least some of the time?
That can turn into a great conversation while a chore gets done.
It could be as simple as giving them a cloth while you dust when they are younger. Or washing the dishes together after supper. Or helping you with yard work.
4. Bedtime is another favorite time to make a connection.
Keep it simple.
Just talking to your children about their day for a few minutes, can be a great way to let them know that you want to listen to what they have to say.
Kids also need encouragement and bedtime is a great time to tell them something for which you are proud of them. I’ll often tell my son how thankful I was that he helped me clean up or how kind he was to his sister, ect.
He loves hearing what he did right and I have to be intentional about telling him. Otherwise I tend to spend a lot of time correcting. I want to strike a balance.
And of course, end the night by telling your child you love them no matter what kind of day it has been. They need to know that your love is unconditional and tomorrow is a new day.
You can start a simple bedtime routine even with babies and get extra quality time in with them too. Here’s how to establish a bedtime routine with your one year old.
Spending quality time and making connections with your children don’t have to be complicated, Mom. You can do it!