Last week I found myself crying into my pillow for no particular reason. I just felt like crying.
My husband asked what was wrong, and I had no answer except that I felt sad. It had hit me. The stay at home mom winter blues.
I struggled with the winter blues even before I was a mom. But being a stay at home mom makes winter even harder.
So when I was crying into my pillow for no particular reason, I knew it was time to make some changes or the rest of winter was going to be long and unbearable.
Understanding you have the winter blues is important. That way you’ll know what to do to fix it.
Winter is especially hard for stay at home moms because, we are confined indoors even more than usual due to the cold. You probably talk to people less often and are more sedentary too.
All of that easily leads to sadness and feeling blue.
If you are feeling overwhelmed as a stay at home mom, be sure to get your copy of the Stay at Home Mom Checklist.
Beating the Stay at Home Mom Winter Blues.
Get out of the house.
I know how much work it takes to get out of the house with kids. Believe me! You have to pack diapers, snacks, and change of clothes.
And in the winter it’s even more work because you also have to add all the layers to keep those kiddos warm: coats, hats, mittens, scarves, boots… Yes, it’s a lot of work.
However, all of that is worth getting out of the walls of your home at least a few times a week.
If you stay home every day, you’ll start to feel hostage in your own home. That’s not good.
Be intentional about getting out of the house. Here are some ideas:
- plan a play date
- go to an indoor play area
- go to library story time
- go to the YMCA
- go window shopping at the pet store
- go to a museum
Talk to adults.
Have you ever thought to yourself, “I can’t remember the last time I had an adult conversation besides my husband?”
In the winter, it’s easy to neglect relationships because you aren’t going out of the house as much. Make an intentional decision to get together with other moms and friends throughout the week.
- Invite someone over for coffee and a morning play date.
- Ask a mom friend to meet you at Chick-fil-A so you can talk while the kids play.
- Find a local MOPS group or ladies Bible study during the day.
If you are being intentional about getting out of the house a few times a week, even that will help you interact with more adults. I love striking up a conversation with moms at the mall playground or library when we go.
Some moms don’t engage in conversation, but over half of the time, they do, and it’s nice to talk.
Find ways to be active.
During the warmer months, my kids and I spend hours outside. But during the cold, winter months we are indoors which easily leads to a more sedentary lifestyle.
But one of the best ways to beat the winter blues and sadness is to exercise. It gets those endorphins moving and sends happy vibes to your brain!
Do things that keep you moving. You could play a game of hide and seek with your kids, have a dance party, or play Simon says. Sometimes we even bust out with a rendition of “Head and Shoulders” and sing it as fast as we can and as slow as we can.
Personally, I like to do a walking exercise video on YouTube, ride our elliptical bike or just walk in place while I listen to a podcast or catch up watching a YouTube video.
Look for ways to be productive.
Let me be super honest here. It’s so easy to turn on the TV or scroll social media by default without even thinking about it, especially during the winter.
However, that usually leads to sadness and a sense of unfulfillment. We have a no TV during the day rule at our house. That means the TV only comes on at night. My kids can watch one show before bed.
It’s amazing how well my kids play and how much we can find to do when the TV isn’t an option!
Winter is a great time to accomplish those tasks that you have been putting off.
- Paint that room.
- Organize the closet.
- Start a new hobby.
- Learn a new skill.
- Do a craft project with your kids.
Doing these things means you are staying active, keeping your mind off of negative thoughts, accomplishing projects. All of those will help you feel good and get through those winter months.
Before you go, be sure to get the Stay at Home Mom Checklist. It will help you conquer your overwhelm at home.