When you are home every day, it can easily lead to boredom. You do the same household chores- laundry, dishes, cleaning up messes. You read books and build Lego towers over and over.
Being a stay at home mom can easily feel like Ground Hogs Day. I know, there are many days, when I would describe myself as trapped.
Sure, as a stay at home mom you don’t have to punch a time clock or report to a boss, but it’s not like you can go out and do anything you want.
Please know, I’m not trying to boo-hoo and vent about how hard it is. I just want you to know that it’s okay and actually normal to feel this way too. You are not alone.
Yes, it can be boring, and that boredom often leads to burnout and even resentfulness towards your role. Don’t let anyone make you feel guilty or shame you for feeling this way.
I want to offer you encouragement and help today. I don’t want you to stay bored.
When I start to feel bored and resentful at home, I know I’ve got to change some things. So if you are feeling this way too, here are some action steps you can take.
What to do if you are a BORED STAY AT HOME MOM
When you set goals, it gives you a sense of purpose and a drive. Goals challenge you.
Goals don’t have to be big and hard. Really they could be simple things. Start with just one area of your life that you would like to improve. Maybe it is your self care. What is one way you could improve self care?
Or maybe you want to learn something new. Is there a skill that you’ve always wanted to learn or develop? Think of a way you could work on it.
If you are overwhelmed with all there is to do, be sure to get your copy of the Stay at Home Mom Checklist. It will help you organize your day and figure out what to focus on at home.
Be the first to invite others into your life.
Don’t wait for everyone else to make the first move all the time. You may get bored staying at home all the time because you don’t have many mom friends. That means it’s time to make some friends. The best way I’ve learned to do that is to be a “Wendy”.
This probably makes absolutely no sense. Let me explain.
When I lived in Florida, I had a friend named Wendy. She was super friendly, and I learned a valuable life lesson from her.
It was to simply go first.
If you want to meet a new friend, be the first to introduce yourself. If you want to have more playdates with other moms, be the first to ask another mom over for a playdate.
Forget the to-do list (sometimes).
Right now, being a stay at home mom feels boring, and you want to change that, right?
Well, the only way to experience change in your life is to make changes in your life. It’s such a simple truth, but one we often over look.
When you are in the midst of something, you simply go through the motions and check things off your to-do list. But it’s when you take a step back and look at the bigger picture, that you understand what needs to change. And maybe you just need to be spontaneous and get out of a rut.
Here are some ideas.
- Plan activities outside of the house each week. As you look ahead at the week, pick a few places for you and your kids to go and get out of the house.
- Go to the library.
- Watch a movie and eat popcorn.
- Have a picnic at home or at the park.
- Go to the playground.
- Plan activities with your kids at home. It could be simply baking cookies one day or finger painting or planting flowers.
- Get ice cream.
- Go on a hike.
Plan your day.
I know I just said to be spontaneous and forget about the to-do list, but it is also important to plan your day. If you don’t know what to do with your time, you’ll end up bored and find your self sitting around with nothing to do.
So come up with a plan for your day. Here’s my best tips for creating a daily schedule as a stay at home mom.
Schedule time in your day to work on your goals like I mentioned earlier. Plan for household chores, time with your kids, and time for relaxation.
Once you get intentional about your time, you’ll take action steps that will help you bust through the boredom and actually enjoy being a stay at home mom!