Last night, I laid my toddler down for bed. We went through her bedtime ritual.
First, she made sure all of her stuffed animals were accounted for. Then after a prayer and song, she snuggled in and got comfortable. I sat there for just a moment longer than usual and soaked in the moment.
All was calm and peace in her little world, even though outside the walls of our home, the world is going toilet paper, Coronavirus crazy.
Right now as her mom, it feels like there is so much that is spinning out of control. I have no idea what the future holds, and not just from day to day. It’s unsure from minute to minute.
Life seems very unstable and a bit scary.
And these circumstances lead to fear of the unknown and feeling of helplessness.
You are probably feeling the same way.
It doesn’t matter how many times you get your kids to wash their hands, and not touch their faces, you just can’t control what might happen.
So today, I want to be super open with you and share some things that have been on my heart and what I’ve been wrestling with in my soul this past week to encourage you as well.
And please, if you have anything you’d like to add to this conversation, share away in the comments!
Acknowledge the fear, but don’t act from a place of fear.
Fear is a legitimate feeling, and it’s good to acknowledge the fear that you have instead of living in denial. The problem is when you act from that fear.
Living from a place of fear, is not a good place to live. Let me tell ya!
For years I allowed fear to dicate the choices that I made. I was constantly walking on eggshells, and it wore me out.
Here’s what I’ve found. Acting from a place of fear causes me to lose sleep. It holds me back from doing and speaking the things I need to. It never changes the future or prevents bad things from happening.
So I encourage you to live today from a place of courage. Because here’s the truth, coronavirus or not, you and I really have no control over our lives from day to day anyways. But worrying about the unknown will only make you miserable.
” This is my command—be strong and courageous! Do not be afraid or discouraged. For the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.”
Keep life as normal as possible.
Already, our lives are different. My kids can’t go to the indoor play areas. Our church gathering was canceled and replaced with a live webstream. We are washing our hands as much as possible. We are praying for the people that are sick and those helping the sick.
Life is not normal and I believe it’s only going to get more abnormal as the days and weeks progress.
But I encourage you to keep life for you and your family as normal as possible. To control what you can.
My daughter’s bedtime ritual was normal to her. It gave her a sense of peace and safety.
I encourage you to stick to your routines as much as possible. Continue eating dinner with your family and reading books to your kids and cleaning the house.
Right now your home and the atmosphere in your home is more important than ever before.
I shared more about that in The Purpose of Homemaking.
“Give all your worries and cares to God, for he cares about you.”
1 Peter 5:7
Choose to meditate on positive messages.
Last week, I literally deleted the social media apps off of my phone. I just couldn’t continue to fill my mind with all the fear and negativity. And it’s so easy for me to get on my phone to mindlessly scroll.
You don’t have to delete social media, but if it is constantly pushing fear and negativity, take some time away or spend less time on it.
Also, just be conscious about your thoughts and what you are allowing your mind to think about. Here’s a personal example from me last week.
I saw a video online about a grocery store with lines going all the way to the back of the store at every register. All the people in line had carts FULL of groceries. All of a sudden I started panicking.
“We’re going to run out of food! I should go to the store and pick up a few things.”
So out of fear, I went to the grocery store and picked up a few extra meals that honestly we didn’t really need. I acted out of fear. Yes, exactly what I said not to do!
As I pulled in my garage, I realized that I had acted out of fear. So the rest of the day, I made a concentrated effort to stop those fear inducing thoughts.
That evening, I decided to catch up on some of my favorite YouTube channels, and one of the videos was about food storage and the coronavirus. After watching the first 2 minutes, I turned it off and instead watched one of my favorite songs Only a Hold God. That song and watching those teens sing about God, re centered my thoughts on the truth that God is in control of all.
As a Christian, I believe that God can take care of my soul for all eternity, so can’t I trust him for the unknown right now? Yes! I can.
I’ve heard it said that when we sing and pray the truth, we are declaring the truth so that our emotions get in line with what we know to be true.
“We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.”
2 Corinthians 10:5
If you are feeling fearful about the coronavirus and fear of the unknown, please know I’m praying for you and rooting for you, Mom!
We’re all in this together.