A lot of moms struggle with taking time out for themselves to recharge and care for themselves.
It stems from a lot of different reasons, but today I’m sharing what I believe to be three of the biggest reasons moms feel guilty for having alone time.
1. Moms think me-time is selfish.
I encourage you to think differently about this. I know that may be hard especially if you grew up in a religious circle and were often told to put other people’s needs above your own.
Of course, you should care for other people, but there has to be a balance between taking care of yourself and others. So often, we think that self care is an either/0r situation. You either care for your family or care for yourself. But that is not true.
You don’t have to choose between your kids and yourself.
You can choose both!
You should choose both.
In fact, when you take care of yourself and recharge, you are actually choosing to care or your kids too because you will have more energy and love to give them. If you are constantly running on empty because you haven’t gotten enough sleep or you haven’t had any quiet time, you will be grumpier and less patient.
Imagine an empty pitcher and empty glasses. Since it is empty, it will do no good. There’s nothing to pour into the glasses.
However, if you fill the pitcher with some ice cold lemonade, you’ll be able to fill the glasses up too.
The same is true for you as the mom. Think of yourself as the pitcher and the glasses as your kids. You have to care for yourself before you can care for those around you. So actually, you are being selfish when you don’t take time to recharge because you are giving your family an empty version of yourself!
2. Moms think me-time is expensive and will be time consuming.
There is a lie being spread about self care that needs to stop. Self care is not just what feels good in the moment like binge watching Netflix, drinking wine, or a spa day. Yes, those could be a small part of self care, but that is not it entirely.
Taking care of yourself means meeting basic needs that will fuel your mind, body, and soul. It’s simple things like getting enough sleep, having quiet time, listening to uplifting music or podcasts, journaling, moving your body, drinking water, and connecting with good people.
Maybe you do need a spa day or tonight you do want to binge on Netflix. Neither or those things are wrong, but if you are neglecting those basic areas of self-care, then the spa and Netflix will only feel good for a moment, but they won’t give you the fuel you really need.
3. Moms think they aren’t worthy.
There are so many heavy things going on in the world right now, and it may feel like you shouldn’t take time out for yourself. But, Mom, it’s because of those heavy things that you need to have time to recharge.
You are worthy. You have value. It’s okay to spend time caring for your body, mind, and soul. It’s not only okay, it’s an important priority.
You probably feel like you aren’t worthy for me-time because of a deep-rooted belief. I encourage you to dig deep and ask yourself why you don’t think you are worth the time and care.
Is it a message you heard growing up from your parents?
Is it a religious teaching that you were taught?
Is it from a relationship that you never felt like you mattered?
Dig deep and understand where these thoughts of being unworthy of self care are coming from and replace them with truth. I’m sure you believe that everyone has value and should be taken care of. But do you really believe that about yourself? You are a person too and you have value.
Put your belief into action and take care of yourself too!
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