Welcome to this special training called “2 Steps to Purposeful Homemaking!”
You can watch the video or scroll past it and read through this post for the same information.
I’m so excited for you because the fact that you decided to read this training means you want to make homemaking a priority and you’re ready to make positive changes.
My hope is that this training will help you discover joy in taking care of your home and your family.
I want to start off by saying that I believe homemaking is incredibly important. We aren’t just cleaning a house or making dinner. Because really we could hire people to do those things and they wouldn’t be considered homemakers.
You are a homemaker because you are literally making a home for your family to feel safe, loved, and comfortable. It is one of, if not, the most important jobs you will ever have even though there is no monetary paycheck for homemaking.
So please know that I’m excited for you and I believe you have what it takes to make changes in your home and life, and that’s why we are here.
So in case we have never met, my name is Emily Wilson. I’m the creator of the online course, The Motivated Homemaker, and I blog here at Queen of the Household where I teach women how to thrive as homemakers.
I’ve been married almost 13 years and I’ve been a stay at home mom for over 6 years now.
And let me tell you, I haven’t always loved homemaking. In fact when I was first married I despised taking care of my home. Then when I quit working to stay home with my kids, I was so overwhelmed and really just felt lost as a homemaker and mom.
I felt like I had no purpose. My days felt mundane and joyless.
I felt this way for longer than I’d like to admit. But one day while at home in my sweat pants, oversized t-shirt, and messy ponytail, I got a glimpse of myself in the mirror, and I was horrified at what I saw because I looked at myself and didn’t recognize who I saw in the mirror.
I looked myself in the eyes and literally said out loud, “Who are you? This has got. to. stop.”
Right then and there I made the decision that I wasn’t going to keep living this way. It was already noon, but I decided to hit restart and I put on a nice pair of shorts and a cute graphic tee that I always felt good in. I put on a bit of makeup. It didn’t take me too long at all. and styled my ponytail. It probably only took me about 10 minutes to do all of that.
But those 10 minutes of investing in myself made all the difference!
Over the next several months, I slowly made changes to how I manage my home and now I can whole heartedly say I love being a homemaker!
So now that you know a little more about me, let’s dive right in to this special training!
Step 1: Know “Why you are a homemaker”.
Before you set out to accomplish anything, it’s important to know why you are doing it. Otherwise you will quickly lose motivation and either quit or become resentful which I think is super easy to feel that way with homemaking.
So WHY are you a homemaker?
It’s not just to have a clean house. You aren’t just cooking meals and folding laundry.
You are caring for your family and equipping them to learn and grow and love and impact the world.
If you don’t understand the importance of why you are a homemaker, you will end up feeling overwhelmed with all that you have to do and taking care of your home will feel just \ like a burden.
So if that is how you feel right now, that’s okay. You are in the right place. That’s why I created this training in the first place. I want to help you go from overwhelmed and burdened to purposeful and content at home.
I’m a firm believer in starting right where you are at and making small changes over time that eventually lead to huge changes. You’ll look back and see just how far you have come! And that is an exciting feeling.
So in this first step come up with some overall reasons for managing your home. There is no right or wrong answer here. You get to decide. But to give you an example here are my reasons for homemaking.
- Homemaking is a way to bring glory to God.
- Homemaking is a way to show my family they are important.
- I want our home to be a retreat from the sometimes difficult world.
- I want our home to be clean and comfortable to our guests.
You can use my why statements as jumping off points, but I encourage you to come up with specific ones that reflect your heart and family.
If you receive my emails, then you have a workbook to go along with this training. Use the workbook to help you work through this first step. Once you are finished, hang your list of reasons why you are a homemaker up to refer to whenever you feel unmotivated.
Being motivated at home is as much about your heart as it is actually doing the chores. That’s why in my course The Motivated Homemaker I talk about mindset and practical homemaking tips.
Which brings me to step number 2.
Step 2: Get intentional with your mornings.
The success of your day, has so much to do with how you start your day. As a homemaker it’s easy to let mornings just happen and not put much thought into them because you’re at home, what difference does it make?
But I want you to think of it differently. Even though you don’t have a job that brings in a paycheck, being a homemaker is probably the most important job you will ever have and I want you to start thinking of it that way. You need to start showing up for yourself, your husband, and your kids. You can do this by preparing for the day each morning.
Your morning helps set the tone for the rest of the day. When you are intentional about the way you spend it, there will be a domino effect on the rest of your day, the choices you make, and your children.
It took me a little while to figure this truth out.
After becoming a mom, most mornings I stayed in my pajamas until mid morning or even noon and didn’t accomplish much of anything.
I felt miserable and unproductive. One of the first changes I made was I started getting intentional with my mornings.
How do you get intentional?
- The first step is to set a wake up time for yourself.
Choose when you will start your day, don’t let it just happen or worse wait until the kids drag you out of bed. I’ve found that I am a better mom when I wake up before my kids. That way I have time to myself.
So anyways, pick a reasonable time and commit to getting up at that time every day.
2. Next, you need to make a plan.
Decide what you want your morning to look like and what you will do. You could refer to this as your morning routine. Always remember that routines should be flexible. Kids will get sick. Accidents will happen. And each morning is going to look a little bit different, but having a general plan, will help you feel less frantic and you’ll be focused on what you want to accomplish.
What you decide to do each morning is totally up to you, but I do encourage you to take a shower and get dressed every day. As a homemaker, it’s easy to stay in frumpy clothes and some days, let’s face it, you may not even take a shower!
So start there.
Get a shower.
Get dressed in real clothes.
If you wear makeup, put some on. It doesn’t have to be complicated. I have a simple 3 minute makeup routine for the days that I stay home. It’s not much, but it makes all the difference in how I look and feel.
When you get yourself ready each morning, you are showing up for yourself, you are showing up for your family, and ultimately, you are showing up for your job as a homemaker.
Maybe you are hearing all this and thinking, “Yeah, but I’m not a morning person.”
Let me just say, “I hear ya!” I used to be the Queen of the Snooze button. But then I realized that I didn’t want to be that way. I understood that my mornings are important. They set the tone for the rest of the day. So I made changes and even though I’m still not a morning person, I figured out how to enjoy mornings by getting up before my kids and having my own quiet time.
If you want change in your life, you have to make changes. Don’t settle for excuses. The outcome is worth it.
You don’t have to stay stuck in survival mode. You can thrive at home! You can find joy and purpose and meaning in the work that you do at home. That’s why I created my online course, The Motivated Homemaker.
You may have started the year wanting to make changes, but just didn’t know where to start. The Motivated Homemaker will walk you step by step on a life changing journey. It’s open for a limited time, and I hope you’ll join me along with other women with the same goal.
Imagine how you will feel and what your home will look like a year from now if you choose to make changes today.
Well, that’s it for this training. Thank you for joining me! The Motivated Homemaker is currently open until Thursday, March 4. I hope you’ll join me. It’s going to be so good!
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