Being a SAHM: 15 Best Tips for Stay at Home Moms

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I’ve been a SAHM for the past 8 years. After working full time as a teacher for 9 years, I had my first baby and became a stay at home mom.

It has been one of the hardest yet rewarding experiences I’ve had. Over the years my role as stay at home mom has taken on different forms. I’ve added in working part time from home and homeschooling my children.

But my main role is still being a stay at home mom.

During that first year, I struggled a lot at home. I felt like I was barely surviving. There were days I even experienced burnout and depression.

Many days I wore an oversized t-shirt and sweatpants, didn’t do my hair or makeup and ended up scrolling my phone or binging on Netflix.

Being a stay at home mom felt overwhelming.

How was I supposed to care for this tiny human being, get supper on the table and do the laundry when I couldn’t even figure out how to get a shower most days!?

One day I remember Googling “How to not go in sane as a stay at home mom“. My internet search came up empty, and I felt hopeless.

I wanted to be a stay at home mom. I even chose to quit my teaching job so that I could stay home, but I didn’t know how to thrive at home.

All of that changed one afternoon. I walked past a mirror in our dining room and couldn’t believe what I saw! I didn’t even recognize who I had become in just 10 months of motherhood.

I looked at myself in the mirror and said out loud, “Who are you? This has to stop!” Even though it was 2:00 in the afternoon, I changed into a pair of shorts and a cute graphic t-shirt, put on a little bit of makeup and teased my ponytail.

Instantly, I felt better about myself and more energized. That day helped me turn a corner and embrace homemaking.

Thriving as a Stay At Home Mom

That day I realized I had to make some changes if I was going to thrive and not simply survive the season of being a SAHM.

Over time God used many different people and Bible verses to help me embrace my role as a stay at home mom and homemaker.

Shortly after that day, I watched a documentary about David Robinson. One season he went from being the lead player of his team to having to step back and be a supporting player.

Something he said really stuck out to me. He said that everyone has a role to play in life. And we have to choose contentment wherever it is. He even mentioned stay at home moms!

I felt like David was talking to me. What he said really impacted me. I realized I got to choose whether or not I was going to be content as a stay at home mom.

Tips for Stay at Home Moms

There are some really important tips I would tell my former self if I could go back to those early days as a stay at home mom.

If I had known these things early on, I believe I wouldn’t have struggled so much.

1. Take care of yourself.

It’s so easy to skip taking a shower and simply stay in your pj’s all day. But you will feel miserable! Start each day by getting a shower and dressed as soon as possible every morning.

When you are busy taking care of everyone else, you may forget to care for your basic self care needs like sleep, nutrition, exercise, and friendship. But make time for these important self care habits.

2. Limit screen time.

Since you are home all day, it’s really easy to stay on your phone or watch TV. But that is not healthy for you emotionally or physically.

Set limits on the amount of time you are on your phone. Keeping the TV off during the day is also a really great habit because once it’s on, it’s easy to just keep it on.

You’ll find that you have so much time to get household chores done and spend quality time with your children when you limit screen time.

3. Follow a morning routine.

How you start your day has a tremendous impact on the way your day will go. If you waste the morning away, you’ll be less likely to get much done later in the day.

Plus you’ll feel better about yourself. Here are some things you should add to your morning routine:

  • get showered and dressed
  • start a load of laundry
  • eat breakfast with your kids
  • clean up the kitchen after breakfast
  • get the kids dressed and ready for the day
  • spend some intentional time with your kids (ie. read a book, sing a song)

4. Follow an evening routine.

Besides a morning routine, another important routine is your evening. The way you end your day will have a direct impact on how things go in the morning.

Here are some things to include in your evening routine:

  • wash the dishes and clean up the kitchen
  • general tidy up of the main living areas
  • make a to-do list for the next day
  • make tomorrow’s lunches
  • have a plan for tomorrow’s breakfast
  • follow a bedtime routine

5. Get out of the house sometimes.

From the stay at home moms I’ve met, there seems to be 2 extremes. Either she stays home all the time or she has plans every single day and is barely home.

It’s healthy to strike a balance. That’s why I encourage moms to make plans for getting out of the house sometimes but also plan to stay home for at least one entire day each week.

6. Go outside.

Going outside has so many health and mental benefits. Make it a habit to get outside at least once a day.

One of my favorite ways to enjoy the outdoors is to simply go for a walk with my kids. When they were younger, I pushed them in the stroller. Now that they are older they walk beside me or ride their scooters.

7. Believe in homemaking.

Think about your why for homemaking. Why is prioritizing your home and family worth it to you? 

When you understand why you are a stay at home mom, you believe in it and you have more motivation to do something when you believe in it. 

Homemaking becomes worth while when you believe that what you are doing is important and worthy. 

8. Prioritize your day.

As a stay at home mom your to-do list probably feels never ending. There are messes to clean up, dishes to wash, and clothes to fold all day long.

But not everything is of equal importance and doesn’t need your attention all at the same time.

Here’s an easy way to prioritize your to-do list: Pick the top 3 most important tasks to do. Only focus on those 3 things until they get done. Once those are done, then move on to the next 3.

This method of prioritizing your to-do list each day, allows you to get the most important tasks done even if you aren’t able to finish everything on your list.

9. Make friends with other stay at home moms.

If you transitioned from working full time to being a stay at home mom, the majority of your friends were probably working moms.

You may still be able to connect with these women, but they won’t be able to understand what you go through each day. That’s why it’s important to get out there and make some new stay at home mom friends.

10. Get up before your kids.

Once your kids are sleeping better at night (and you are too), make it a point to wake up before them.

This gives you time to yourself before jumping right into mom-mode. Use this time in a way that gets you ready for the day. My best advice is to stay off social media.

I like to wake up about an hour before my kids to read the Bible, drink a hot cup of coffee, and get a shower. However, my kids are older. When they were younger, I only got up about 10 minutes before them.

Do what works for you.

11. Follow a daily schedule.

I hesitate to use the term “schedule” because it can feel rigid. Your daily schedule is only a plan. You can make it as detailed or vague as you want.

But it’s important to make a plan for how you will spend your time. Since you don’t have a boss or time clock, you get to decide what your day will look like.

12. Pick up a hobby.

As a mom your life can easily become consumed with taking care of the kids, completing household chores, and running errands.

But you are still YOU. Don’t lose who you are in the midst of motherhood. Be sure to make time to do things that you love. One of my favorite hobbies is growing flowers, so I make time for it.

13. Take breaks.

Taking breaks doesn’t mean you have to have a babysitter or spend money. In fact you can plan breaks at home throughout the day!

This is especially easy if you have a daily schedule in place. 

14. Choose contentment.

You are exactly where you need to be in this season of your life. There are pros and cons to being a stay at home mom. Choose to intentionally focus on the pros.

Do your best not to compare your current role to other moms or who you used to be. As the wise saying goes, “Comparison is the thief of joy.”

15. Do something fun every day.

As a stay at home mom, you can easily fall into a rut, doing the same things every day. But the good news is this. YOU get to choose what you do with your day.

Pick something fun to do every day. Something you look forward to doing either by yourself or with your kids.

I hope this list of tips has been helpful. Being a stay at home mom really is the best job in the world! If you are ready to thrive as a stay at home mom, be sure to get a copy of my best-selling guidebook: Successful Stay at Home Mom!

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