I thought I would love being a stay at home mom after having my son, but I quickly learned that it wasn’t as enjoyable as I thought it would be. Many days I was bored and often found myself sitting on the couch scrolling my phone or watching Netflix.
Most days felt like Ground Hogs Day, doing the same thing over and over. There were many days, when I would describe myself as trapped and lonely at home, even depressed as a stay at home.
I knew I didn’t want to feel this way all the time though, so I got intentional about how I spent my days. If you are feeling this way too, here are some action steps you can take.
STAY AT HOME MOM BORED
1. Set goals for yourself.
When you set goals, it gives you a sense of purpose and a drive. Goals challenge you.
Goals don’t have to be big and hard. Really they could be simple things. Start with just one area of your life that you would like to improve. Maybe it is your self care. What is one way you could improve self care?
Or maybe you want to learn something new. Is there a skill that you’ve always wanted to learn or develop? Think of a way you could work on it. Here’s a list of hobbies for stay at home moms to get you started.
Here are some goal ideas:
- read books
- start a hobby
- exercise
- healthy eating
- start a blog, Etsy shop, or YouTube channel
- learn a new cooking skill
If you find yourself bored and checking your phone throughout the day, pick a goal you can work on instead.
2. Be the first to invite other moms into your life.
Don’t wait for everyone else to make the first move all the time. You may get bored staying at home all the time because you don’t have many mom friends. That means it’s time to make some adult friends. The best way I’ve learned to do that is to be a “Wendy”.
This probably makes absolutely no sense. So let me explain.
When I lived in Florida, I had a friend named Wendy. She was super friendly, and I learned a valuable life lesson from her.
It was to simply GO FIRST.
If you want to meet a new friend, be the first to introduce yourself. If you want to have more playdates with other moms, be the first to ask another mom over for a playdate.
Most moms are looking for good friends to do life with too. So take the first step and reach out to other moms when you are at the park, library, or church. Some moms won’t want to talk and that’s okay. But eventually, you’ll find others who do want a friend.
If you aren’t naturally outgoing, you can still make new friends. I’ve been shy most of my life, but I’ve found that the more I practice speaking to others, the easier it gets.
The next time you are at an event with other moms, be the first one to start the conversation or ask an acquaintance if they want to meet for a playdate or get coffee.
3. Forget the to-do list (sometimes).
Right now, being a stay at home mom is making you bored, and you want to change that, right?
The only way to experience change in your life is to MAKE changes in your life. It’s such a simple truth, but one we often over look.
When you are in the midst of motherhood, sometimes it’s easy to simply go through the motions and check things off your to-do list. But it’s when you take a step back and look at the bigger picture, that you understand what needs to change. And maybe you just need to be spontaneous and get out of a rut.
I love doing new things each week.
Here are some ideas.
- Plan activities outside of the house each week. As you look ahead at the week, pick a few places for you and your kids to go and get out of the house.
- Go to the library.
- Watch a movie and eat popcorn.
- Have a picnic at home or at the park.
- Go to the playground.
- Plan activities with your kids at home. It could be simply baking cookies one day or finger painting or planting flowers.
- Get ice cream.
- Go on a hike.
- Invite a friend over for coffee or lunch.
- Join a moms group.
4. Plan your day.
I know I just said to be spontaneous and forget about the to-do list, but it is also important to have a general plan for your day. If you don’t know what to do with your time, you’ll end up bored and find your self sitting around with nothing to do.
So come up with a plan for your day. Here’s my best tips for creating a stay at home mom schedule.
Schedule time in your day to work on your goals like I mentioned earlier.
Plan for:
- household chores
- time with your kids
- time for relaxation
Once you get intentional about your time, you’ll take action steps that will help you stop feeling bored.
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