The Titus 2 Woman Explained: Older Women Teach Younger Women

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Titus 2 was hugely influential in my life early on as a stay at home mom. I was miserable and homemaking felt like a burden.

After being tired of feeling that way about my new role, I searched the Bible for help. Titus 2 was eye opening for me as I read how God designed me as a woman, wife, and mom.

The past couple of years I’ve had the privilege to see the “Titus 2 woman” in action in my life as a woman.

Titus 2 addresses servants and masters and men as well. However there are probably 2 passages of scripture that are the most notorious for women: Proverbs 31 and Titus 2.

Both passages have lots of valuable truths and instruction for women. But in this post I want to share specifically how Titus 2 has changed my life and encouraged me as a woman.

Let me break it all down for you in ways that are easy to understand and give you practical ways to apply it in your own life.

What is a Titus 2 Woman?

The term Titus 2 Woman comes from the Bible in the book of Titus chapter 2 and verses 3-5.

“Likewise, teach the older women to be reverent in the way they live, not to be slanderers or addicted to much wine, but to teach what is good. Then they can urge the younger women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God.”

There is so much packed into these 3 verses!

So let’s break it all down phrase by phrase.

Older women should live reverently.

Titus first gives instructions to the older women. What age is “older women”? Well, I’m 41. I’m older compared to some women. I’m also considered younger to other women.

No matter your age, you have someone to teach and someone to learn from. I’ve learned a lot when it comes to the commands in Titus 2, but I also have a lot to learn.

So how does one live reverently?

To live reverently is to live a life of honor and respect. This means the way I speak, the attitude I have and the way I represent myself should be honorable and respectful.

The next few phrases actually describe non-reverent and reverent ways for us to live.

Don’t be a slanderer.

I remember walking in on some older women gossiping about me when I was a young mom. It was the worst feeling and I certainly didn’t look up to those women anymore.

They were not living reverently or following this biblical guidance.

I also remember the time I was in college that I spoke slander about a friend of mine. Word got back to her of what I said and our friendship was never the same.

It was that experience when I vowed I would do my absolute best to never gossip about someone else again.

The best way to avoid being a slandered is to simply stop talking about other people. It can be done!

Instead of talking about other people, make conversation with others by asking questions or even talking about your own struggles and growth.

Don’t be addicted to too much wine.

Let’s break this one down. First it says not to be addicted. An addiction is something you can’t go without. It has a control over you rather than you having control over it.

The next phrase says women should not be addicted specifically to too much wine. How much is too much wine? It probably depends on the person.

The Bible is clear that Christians are not to be drunk with wine. Therefore consuming wine to the point of drunkenness is too much.

It could also be any amount that disrupts your ability to do the other things God has called you to do.

Teach what is good.

The Titus 2 woman is to pass along the knowledge she has acquired over the years about what is good. In order to share good things, she needs to know what is good.

The only way to know what is good, is to study and understand God’s word.

Teaching can be done through words, actions, and attitudes.

Urge younger women to love their husbands and kids.

The word urge means to earnestly or persistently persuade. It’s something that is super important.

God created marriage between a husband and wife and wants there to be love between them. He also tells us that children are a gift from Him.

I always turn to 1 Corinthians 13 to find the definition of love. Love is patient and kind. I often pray for patience and kindness as I deal with my kids. I need it!

Love isn’t rude or irritable. Oh, that one hits close to home! The people I’m most likely to be rude or irritable with are my husband and my kids. But that isn’t love.

When I don’t keep records of wrongs my husband or kids have done against me, I’m treating them with love. Because in reality, I want that same kind of love from them!

We are also told that love never gives up. Love is hopeful and endures all circumstances. That is desperately needed when it comes to marriage and motherhood.

Loving my family means, I’m not giving up on them.

Be self-controlled.

Self control effects so many aspects of our lives. I need self control to hold my tongue when wanting to slander someone. I need self control when I choose to be patient and kind with my kids.

I need self control when I want to eat too much chocolate or want to sleep in longer than I should or scroll on my phone instead of being diligent.

Be pure.

Christian women should honor the Lord by being pure and without sin. None of us are perfect. We will never be free of sin until heaven.

However, we ought to ask God to help us live a life characterized by purity.

Be busy at home.

I didn’t learn this as a younger woman, and that is why I struggled so much as a new wife and a stay at home mom.

When I finally read this verse, I realized I wasn’t being busy at home. I was being lazy for much of my day. Over time I had to realize that I needed to be diligent at home.

That was the beginning of me creating this blog and becoming the Queen of my Household.

Now, I do need to note that some people add extra meaning to this scripture saying that women shouldn’t work outside the home.

However, Proverbs 31 talks about a woman who earns money. Never in scripture are we told that women can’t earn money or have a business.

Homemaking is probably the most important job a woman will ever have but that doesn’t mean it’s her only job.

Homemaking doesn’t mean you have to make sourdough bread from scratch or raise chickens or homeschool your kids.

Yes, you can do those things, but being busy at home doesn’t mean you have to follow a stereotypical list of homemaking.

Are you busy caring for your family? Or are you wasting time? Be honest with yourself and realistic on what you can do each day at home.

Be kind.

Kindness is shown though our actions, words, tone of voice, and attitudes. I have to check myself every day and ask God to help me be kind.

Kindness to my kids, husband, friends, family, strangers, and even myself.

Be subject to their husbands.

God created men and women differently. We have different abilities and roles that compliment each other.

Some people misuse this phrase and use it as an excuse for abuse and control. However, that is not what this phrase is saying.

It’s always important to compare scripture to other scripture. Let’s look at Ephesians 5:21-25 to get a better look at what being “subject to a husband” really means.

And further, submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.

Ephesians 5:21

In this verse, we see that submission goes both ways. Submission is not allowing your spouse to run over you or mistreat you.

Submission is yielding to another person’s will. It’s being humble and not always expecting someone else to do everything you want.

As a wife that means I’m willing to spend time doing things my husband likes to do even though it’s not my favorite, like going to Southern Gospel concerts or watching baseball. 🙂 Okay, I’ve learned to enjoy those things too!

I listen to his view on things and allow him to share his concerns without being condescending. He in turn does the same for me!

For wives, this means submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For a husband is the head of his wife as Christ is the head of the church. He is the Savior of his body, the church. As the church submits to Christ, so you wives should submit to your husbands in everything.

Ephesians 3:23-24

This verse offers more to the discussion. Just as the church has freedom in Christ as its Savior, wives have freedom to be themselves. However, husbands are to lead.

I had to learn this over many years in my marriage. I often want to lead my husband, but that is not the way God designed us.

Instead, I have asked God to show me how I’m not allowing my husband to lead and make changes in my attitude and words.

I’m not saying this is easy. As sinners we want our own way, but it’s so important to follow the structure of marriage that God has designed.

For husbands, this means love your wives, just as Christ loved the church.

ephesians 5:25

Of course, we are focusing on women in this post, but remember that marriage is the work of 2 individuals. Husbands are also to love their wives.

According to 1 Corinthians 13, love is patient and kind. It is not self seeking, and it always protects.

How to Be a Titus 2 Woman

As a Christian, I want to do what the Bible tells me to do. One of the first things you can do is pray. Ask God to help you in the area that you need to make changes.

Make a priority to connect to other women of various ages. I attend a ladies’ Bible study once a month that is comprised of women younger than me, my age, and older than me.

This Bible study is so encouraging! I learn from the other ladies as they openly share how God is working and has worked in their lives. That’s why I make it a priority to go each month.

Older women teach me by words and their actions. But that means I have to be around them on a regular basis. I can’t stay home and keep to myself.

This happens as I interact with other Christian women as I volunteer and attend church events.

So I encourage you to do the same thing. Take action and diligently seek ways to get involved in your church and/or a Christian organization.

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